Tantric Masturbation - What Is It?
Reprinted from Tantric Masturbation - What Is It?
Edging refers to getting to the EDGE of cumming, a stroke or several away, and then staying there for a while. It goes by many names:
- EDGING = staying on the EDGE of cuming (very different from "edge play" which also plays with breath to enhance arousal, but which literally rides the edge of asphyxiation to achieve this; not something I want to do or have done to me!);
- PEAKING = staying at the peak of arousal;
- BRINKING = staying on the BRINK of cuming;
- TEETERING = teetering on the edge of cuming w/o falling (thanks in Melbourne);
- PLATEAUING = cruising on the Western Prairie of BLISS;
- VERGING = surfing on the edge of the Wave of BLISS;
- ENDORPHING = ever so gently stroking your Erotic Handle to increase the flow of ENDORPHINS in your brain;
- PROLONGED AROUSAL = staying AROUSED for a welikemLONG time;
- TANTRIC MASTURBATION = doing ALL the above :o)
I like to do it for 10 minutes several times a day and for at least 20 minutes early in the day. But this is a luxury I cannot afford some days!
Some refer to the intense feelings while riding very close to cumming as ORGASM-WITHOUT-EJACULATION; that is, without the sharp contractions we have when we shoot out cum. I find that the intensity of pleasure gotten while riding the edge is at least as great as what I get when I actually do cum, and the prospect of doing it again very soon with the same or even greater pleasure the next time is what convinces me (usually) to pull back away from pushing over the edge and just enjoying the incredibly intense pleasure I can give myself.
I also find after doing it for 15-20 minutes that I usually get to a meditative state and let my mind travel free of what I am doing with my cock. Sometimes, I have had esp. good insights on my work that lead me in good new directions, hence the saying: "I'm smarter when I'm hard."
It is very hard to communicate what edging is w/o DOING it, experiencing it yourself and for each of us and, indeed, each time I do it, it is a bit different. That is our god priapus surprising us! So COME, TASTE THE SWEET FLOW OF NECTAR ! Some Details
The key is Be Mindful.
Pay attention to what you feel - Savor your feelings in ALL parts of your body. Don't focus only on your cock, but be aware of tingles in your feet, your back, your mind, and especially your perineum and prostate. Help your mind be aware of these by touching yourself in these places.
I like to put the index finger of my left hand (well lubed!) up my butt hole and touch my prostate and wiggle the end of my finger. Pressure on the perineum is also exquisite. Savor the little tingles, and when starting, don't rush it. Vary your starting routine. Best of all: surprise yourself: if I can think I am going to do one thing and then my hands end up all on their own doing something else, that is the best!
Most guys find that porn flicks or friction fiction is useful, if at all, only at the start of a session. After you get GOOD VIBRATIONS going all the way from your cockhead to your prostate, focus on these, savor them cultivate them. If you have other ideas, or porn thoughts, or even work ideas come into your head, just let them float across the screen of your consciousness, the surface of your meditative mind, and stay centered on your breathing, your body.
Consume the deliciousness of the tingles in your perineum, in your cock, as you pull your balls, twist your nipples. If something heightens your pleasure, just let it happen and focus on the deliciousness, letting thought of how it happened pass.
Sometimes after edging for 15-30 minutes nonstop, I find my mind wanders to some problem I have been wrestling with, whether mundane logistical stuff or my mathematical theory stuff, and I get a new insight that seemed very far from something I could think of, a true gift from Tantric Masturbation.
This is what I refer to as seeing with my Third Eye:
which I locate just below your frenulum (or lack of frenulum in most circ'd men).
When my third eye opens up this way and I have an unexpected vista, what W. H. Auden referred to as being guided by one's cock in writing poetry, I permit my meditative discipline and my attention to my breathing to slack off for a bit so I can register it in a more secure memory module of my brain before I go back to riding the edge of consciousness with my cock.
Thank you Humphrey Carpenter for noting this adivce
from Auden to John Pudney on p. 118 in
W. H. Auden: A Biography.
1981 Boston: Houghton Mifflin.
Paying attention means that the NEXT time, after you surprise yourself by cuming unexpectedly, you may notice some warning signs of what is about to happen.
These will be new sensations of which you have not previously been aware. A startling example for me occurred when I was rushing to get high, forcing to the edge after I had already ridden the edge a lot and my prostate was FULL; my prostate decided to empty itself without much of any sensation at all.
It just poured out a good tablespoon of cum like it or not! I now recognize a slight fluttering in my prostate as the warning sign that this is about to happen.
I also now know that, if I simply clench my perineum muscles (i.e., do a very strong Kegel tightening) as soon as this flow starts, then I can stop this emptying and then gradually resume my climb to the summit of the Hill of Pleasure. This is a good example of how being MINDFUL
matters in edging.