My cock makes her pussy too sore... any suggestions?

coolhungluke · 11-03-2008

This girl I've been seeing has been making comments that my cock makes her too sore. She complains that my cock head is too big. She recently suggested that I insert an ice cube into her pussy before going for a second round on her that day. I placed the ice cubes into her with my mouth... made her pussy, as predicted very cold.. but she liked it-- relieved the swelling she said.

Does anyone else have this issue their big cock hurting a girl with a sensitive pussy? Any suggestions to help her cope with the swelling, pain or help her lubricate better?

Canuck_Viking · 11-03-2008

My wife and I used to have this problem, but after 2 years of sex and using lots of lube and spit, we can have sex without issue!

Good luck and tell her that practice makes perfect

D_CountdeGrandePinja · 11-03-2008

nice head!!!

chiefone4u · 11-03-2008

Lots of foreplay... and lots of lube... go slow till you get her warmed up real good... and things should be better for her.

JP0724 · 11-03-2008

I know very little about pussy, but I would say that she just needs to get used to it.. just keep working on it. There could be worse chores in the world.. lol. If it were me in her position, I would suck it up and take for the privilege of having that inside me.. Just sayin'

sexplease · 11-04-2008

would a snug fitted condom taper your entry some?

B_Morning_Glory · 11-04-2008

your not all that big girth wise to me. maybe she is just a small girl there and not use to your size. try lots of foreplay before hand and maybe some extra lube as well. i had this first time with hubby but i got use to it quickly and now can take him with out a problem. give it time besides what better thing than sex do you have to use time on LOL. unless its cash but for me its hard to chose between the two LOL. so i look upon it as one isa necessary and the other is a pleasure.

Riven650 · 11-04-2008

Providing that's a standard beer bottle you're holding, I can see at a glance that your cock and it's head are a nice size but not so big that it should make your gf sore. So what's going on? For a start, I'd advocate against using ice in her pussy because as it quickly melts and becomes water it washes away her natural lubrication. Instead, I wholeheartedly agree with previous posters - use plenty of foreplay, and don't be embarrassed to use some extra lube.

But I want to ask a question or two: What kind of soreness are you talking about here? Is she experiencing painful jolts - like you're bumping something tender - which could be an infection, or is her soreness something that feels more like abrasion? Either way it could be that she has a cervical erosion or something so it might be an idea for her to show it to her doctor. Another possibility is that she isn't really relaxed about having sex. Intellectually, she might be right there with you on this, but subconsiously, she might be inhibited for some reason (ie. her upbringing, a previous bad sexual experience, something else) and she isn't really managing to relax properly. It can lead to an involuntary tightening of the vagina, causing painful sex. This is surprisingly common, and needs to be taken seriously. It can be successfully treated with appropriate therapy.

The Dragon · 11-04-2008

One word for you fella.....
masturation.

waterpoloplaya · 11-04-2008

Yeah I do. But my girlfriend has cervical issues :(

D_Chaumbrelayne_Copprehead · 11-04-2008

My first girlfriend felt the same way; it was actually several weeks after we first tried having sex that we were able to complete the act.

I agree with those here who've recommended

lots of foreplay (my experience is that lots of great clit-fingering and pussy licking will cause her body to feel like it WANTS you inside her)
get some lube and use it generously
fuck slow and sensuously at first ... slide in slowly, start with your cock making shallow motions in her pussy, slide in and flex your kegels, etc.

If it's a case of too much friction, that can be dealt with. If she has issues about having sex, that's a whole 'nother matter.

Mike7 · 11-04-2008

Lose the ice and buy some lube at drug store.

chadstallion · 11-04-2008

there's always the PIITB; maybe that would be easier for her to take?

or, find a power bottom; they can appreciate what you're packing....;)

rubirosa · 11-04-2008

Dick her in the ass!

coolhungluke · 11-04-2008

I've never had this issue before with a woman. I know she is not self-lubricating enough. If I stimulated her clit more, would that work?

Can anyone suggest a sex toy that would help stimulate her clit to better naturally lubricate? I am using lube on her, ice cubes etc...

And no.. she won't do anal.