4 in a row? Edit button plz? Yeah, and the grammar does hurt.
About your problem... well, is it really a problem ? it is something that you can very well do by yourself and do not need a man to do. If he doesn't have the patience to slowly open you and stretch you with that big thing, I can understand. In that situation he mostly pleasures you and if he's not in the mood, it's probably not that tempting.