Originally Posted by ksbigcock
I would love to get to the point where I can leak cum, but not shoot my whole load. That would be incredibly hot. Sounds like I still need to do quite a bit of practicing...
How many of you have reached this level of control? I can usually stay right on the edge for a little while, but I always end up going too far by accident and cumming before I'm ready.
I can go to the point where 1 or 2 drips of cum leak out but like you say it is incredibly hot and the self-discipline to not want to finish it off is almost unbearable because men are programmed to ejaculate. That is because you are at the highest plateau phase possible (where a small gust of air could brush by your cock head and set you off!). This is the stage that women can remain in for long periods of time but they don't have to work at staying in it as hard as men do. This is the highly vocal stage for both men and women.
OTOH, although men are "programmed" to immediately crest over into full-on orgasms and then ejaculate (obviously for pro-creation purposes), women are not. So typically, women stay in the plateau phase much easier than men but men orgasm much easier than women.
When you learn to discipline yourself, you will be on a sort of equal playing field with women as far as staying in the plateau phase and you will be multi-orgasmic. The orgasmic phase itself will become less important because it only lasts a very short time whereas in theory, you can stay in the plateau phase and experience orgasms without full ejaculations indefinitely.
One of the best video examples I have seen of a man doing this is a moderately hairy beefcake, average looking guy names Scott. He brings himself to the edge several times but acts and talks like it is damn hard work. The man really knows how to make love to himself and his cock. He strokes away and suddenly reaches down and pushes up on his balls and cock (so it is touching his navel) and he says "Shit!" The camera does not zoom in but you can see 3 or 4 foot long cum spurts. He then starts jacking furiously and bends his cock over to his left leg and shoots a huge load all over this thigh while screaming in pleasure. The director asks if he always cums that much and he says "yea." I ran onto another vid of him, I think on Malemotion.com but I don't think he was edging in that one and yep, he shot pretty good on his chest on that one.
Exercise those PC muscles and practice, practice, practice. Both you and your partners will love it.