Originally Posted by Gisella
Yep..you are right...
Rob, do you think that a man that like giving it like to receive it too?
And as a male...if this situation is talking about between men, how many you heard that enjoy both situations?
And tell me another thing too: Most males are up to try almost anything if suggested by women?
I do ask that sometimes I'm confuse by male behaviour..for exemple: male that are into porn may have lots of fantasies and situations they like to try but sometimes they do it just in their minds and dont share with their partners bcause they may be shy or something else...
And another thing...if a person have casual sex with different people for sure they will use condoms...does a person will drink cum, lick all privates and etc without protections while having sex with a casual encouter, or not exclusive relationship..or they will ????
Yeh Rob...i'm asking lots of things to you...sorry...answer what you can, ok?
I think I posted in the newer rimming thread that while I have generally enjoyed rimming past girlfriends, I'm much more uptight about having it done to me. I tend to assume (I'm sure this is a wrong assumption in some cases) that she's thinking that since I did it to her, she has to reciprocate. Which isn't the case - I do things in bed because I enjoy doing them and/or because I want to make her feel good. I don't believe in quid pro quo
sex, unless one person is always taking and the other person is always giving.
If I'm with a woman that I am at ease with, and I know that she is doing it because she wants to (and not because she feels obligated) I'll enjoy receiving. There was one ex of mine who really was enthusiastic 'down there'... she liked to have me lie on my back, and she would push my knees back to my chest and cycle through jerking my cock/rubbing my 'taint'/sucking me/rubbing my anus/rimming me. She seemed to genuinely enjoy making me feel good as much as I enjoyed pleasing her. Those were good times
To answer your second question - I have never had a discussion with my male friends about rimming.
would be their reaction, I think. I do think that men tend to be pretty open to sexual suggestions from women. If a woman suggests something 'kinky', most straight guys - even if pretty vanilla in other ways - will be up to try it. Or so say my kinky female friends.
I do ask that sometimes I'm confuse by male behaviour..for exemple: male that are into porn may have lots of fantasies and situations they like to try but sometimes they do it just in their minds and dont share with their partners bcause they may be shy or something else... |
I can only speak for myself here. I've been fortunate (if that's the right word) enough to live out a few of my wilder fantasies over the past 3 years or so. And my personal conclusion is that some things are better left as fantasies. A fantasy can be completely tailored to your own fetish or preference and once you have 'finished'
with the fantasy it is gone. Living out fantasies involves real people, with real feelings, and their own ideas as to how the fantasy should play out. It's very easy for a fantasy to go awry as a result, leading to hurt feelings or disappoinment. So I think that might be the 'something else' (other than shyness) that you mention as being a reason males don't share fantasies with their partners. Along with the more common reason - we're afraid you're going to be appalled with how perverted we are.
Casual sex... I have never been really big on casual sex - I've only had 2 'casual sex' relationships, when I was younger and foolish, and got tested afterwards due to a bout of healthy paranoia. Anyway, I've never used a dental dam when giving oral sex. I try to have sex with women I trust, and to get to know them well before having sex. I understand the HIV risk is much lower when it comes to oral sex as opposed to intercourse, so I suppose it's a risk people are willing to take when it comes to oral sex. Personally, I make sure I get to know the person, ask questions if things are moving quickly, and if I'm in any doubt at all, I'll get tested a suitable length of time afterwards.