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this video has been around here a long time but truly, this works for me and I love it. Forget the massage stuff, I like the way he fingers her - it looks rough but feels fantastic.
there will be a ton of different answers to this question because all women have different ways they like to be pleasured. For me, I don't want someone simply in and out with their fingers as though I were being *fucked* - I want the g-spot stimulation. The urethra is full of nerves and a huge turn on to me -ending in the urethra nerve bundle which is theg-spot. Play with that (along the inside of the front wall of the vagina) and I'm good! I don't like little flicks and direct stimulation to my clitorus - if you're going to touch it, do it with some pressure and press on and rub the area.
In terms of oral - I may be strange in this but I can't cum from just oral - I need those fingers inside me at the same time. I can't stand the little flicks - it's irritating. I like heavier pressure on my clit as well as having my lips sucked, lightly bitten, and...the best head I ever received (this guy took it to a whole other level I'd never experienced before) he had the top of his head facing my feet and went at it that way as opposed to being between my legs facing me (if that makes anysense). He played with all areas and inserted his tongue into me - He licked, sucked, and basically face fucked me. Was intense. If it's tentative - forget about it. Rather not have it.
Just remember - this question should be asked of each woman because we're all different :)