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Sexual attraction after or before love?

I have one question for those who used to/have been/will be in a relationship. Do you guys fall in love with a person first then you feel sexually attracted to him/her? or are you sexually

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Old 04-30-2010   #1 (permalink)
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Sexual attraction after or before love?

I have one question for those who used to/have been/will be in a relationship. Do you guys fall in love with a person first then you feel sexually attracted to him/her? or are you sexually attracted to the person first then you fall in love (granted if it's destined for you to be in love)?

Because for me personally, usually when I am sexually attracted to someone, I have to fall for him first. But sometimes, I do feel sexually attracted to someone and no love afterwards.

What do you guys think?
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Old 04-30-2010   #2 (permalink)
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My first boy friend lasted one year and I was totally attracted to him sexually but no love. I meet my second and current man in 1984 and also was sexually attracted to him and we where so in love, still are but no sex any more. go figure
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Old 05-01-2010   #3 (permalink)
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well on my case,i fell inlove with her first and when we were going steady and live in my apartment well i became more sexually attracted to her..well,i think when you fall in love its a combination of love and sex because if you are sexually attracted first i think you might call it lust..am i right?

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Old 05-02-2010   #4 (permalink)
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I guess you're right. It is just, perhaps it can go both ways...
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Old 05-02-2010   #5 (permalink)
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My BF (the one I recently broke up with) was a bit different. I was attracted to him but not so much in love. He made me fall in love though - through his words and actions and just the way he was - and man I fell hook, line and sinker. In 4 years however he changed dramatically. We met when he was 20 and I was 50. Four years is a lot for someone in that age range. He decided to go out exploring the other side of the mountain - behind my back. He went from nice small-town guy to big city slut, it seems.
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Old 05-02-2010   #6 (permalink)
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personally, for me, the attraction/chemistry is there first. i fall in love with them as a whole, body, mind and soul...but my initial access point is the visual and outward personality, which is entirely about attraction.

"While most books on sex say that penis size doesn't matter, there are two groups of people to whom it does matter. One group includes almost every male alive. The second group includes every woman who derives sexual pleasure from intercourse."

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Old 05-02-2010   #7 (permalink)
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Guys I've immediately had that "i would like to dirty, dirty things with him" sexual attraction have never lasted long. It's like a flash fire burns hot and quickly dies out.

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Old 05-02-2010   #8 (permalink)
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Depends on the situation.

If its a friendship becoming a relationship then their will be love before sex, but if its a new person there obviously needs to be some kind of sexual attraction to spark your initial interest.
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Old 05-02-2010   #9 (permalink)
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for me it's usually sexual attraction before love. But, I have been friends and then developed a sexual attraction.
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Old 05-02-2010   #10 (permalink)
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Physical attraction ALWAYS comes first. A possible exception could be if you meet someone online and see no pictures of them until after you've already spent considerable time talking to them. You could develop a liking for a person that way, but it'd be nothing more then a, "this person is cool to talk to, I wonder what they look like, I'd need to know that to know if I'd be interested in them outside of a mere friend" type of deal.

I don't see how you can fall for someone you have no desire to fuck.

I LOVE GAYS!!!

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Old 05-02-2010   #11 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by StraightDave View Post
I don't see how you can fall for someone you have no desire to fuck.
fucking and attraction are two different things
people fuck people they don't like or have attraction to all the time, they just like a warm hole

"She's got a heart as big as Texas, she's got personality and class. She's got a heart as big as Texas, yeah but so is her ass!" -Doug Moreland

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Old 05-02-2010   #12 (permalink)
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Topic creator said SEXUAL attraction though. To me, sexual attraction equals desiring to fuck someone because you find them attractive.

I LOVE GAYS!!!

+= HOT!!!!
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Old 05-02-2010   #13 (permalink)
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I fall in love first.
but I usually fuck with guys i don`t love!
That`s why i don`t fuck much:(

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Old 05-02-2010   #14 (permalink)
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Quote:
Originally Posted by gretchenweiner View Post
fucking and attraction are two different things
people fuck people they don't like or have attraction to all the time, they just like a warm hole
but as you say, those people just want the hole...they don't want to fuck the person, per se.

"While most books on sex say that penis size doesn't matter, there are two groups of people to whom it does matter. One group includes almost every male alive. The second group includes every woman who derives sexual pleasure from intercourse."

-The Guide to Getting it On.
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Old 05-03-2010   #15 (permalink)
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Quote:
Originally Posted by StraightDave View Post
Physical attraction ALWAYS comes first. A possible exception could be if you meet someone online and see no pictures of them until after you've already spent considerable time talking to them. You could develop a liking for a person that way, but it'd be nothing more then a, "this person is cool to talk to, I wonder what they look like, I'd need to know that to know if I'd be interested in them outside of a mere friend" type of deal.

I don't see how you can fall for someone you have no desire to fuck.
Actually I have fallen in love with people I have no desire to fuck in the first place at all. But then, after falling for them, I suddenly find them very attractive and fuckable. This happened twice.

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Originally Posted by luka82 View Post
I fall in love first.
but I usually fuck with guys i don`t love!
That`s why i don`t fuck much:(
And that's the reason why I have never fucked or been fucked at all...
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