Originally Posted by Skull Mason
Dude, it's your wife, FUCKING ASK HER.
i agree. you have to say something at some point, but if she says no-end-of-story-that's-it-not-doing-it, you might have to resign yourself to it and be nice. i would love love love my current boyfriend to fuck me in the ass, but the ways i have brought it up to hint that i like it haven't resulted in any interest on his part, and i'm not about to say 'hey sweetheart, i loved the anal sex i had with Tom, Dick, and Harry and i'd love it if you did it to me' if it's already obvious the thought doesn't turn him on. have you told her you do it to yourself? have you ever let her see you do it to yourself? have you explained to her that in your case it has everything to do with a woman
pleasing you? she might be anxious about it because she might not understand that it has very little to do with The Gay.