You get bonus points for questioning if this is a women's issue .
Personally, I love it. If anal sex isn't too gross to do, I don't understand why a woman would think it would be gross if he came in her ass
Its not that my fiancée thinks anal sex is gross. Its just that it hurts if we do it for too long or if I try to put it all the way in. Usually I just pop the head of my dick in and out. And then I cum.