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Originally Posted by Mattness Most gay men have sex with "str8" guys all the time. OK, you jogged something I've been thinking about for a while. As a longtime Los Angeles resident, I found this

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Old 03-11-2006   #16 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Mattness
Most gay men have sex with "str8" guys all the time.
OK, you jogged something I've been thinking about for a while. As a longtime Los Angeles resident, I found this very rare. Maybe it was just me. My best friend who grew up in Brooklyn said this was VERY common in his neighborhood. Do you think this sort of thing is more common in areas that are less receptive (pardon the pun) to gay sex and gay life?
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Old 03-11-2006   #17 (permalink)
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These so-called 'straight' guys are too
afraid to "own" their sexuality.

They are unwilling to admit that a cock
does as much for them as a vagina does.

If the religious fanatics would quit judging
every one and just live and let live...yes,
I know...Utopia...a lot of people would
not be getting married for the wrong reasons.
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Old 03-11-2006   #18 (permalink)
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I've been married and had 2 other long term straight relationships and have never been tempted to have any kind of homo-sex. I'm not bothered by it though, it just does nothing for me. I've seen it on video, and gay associates have once or twice invited me for guilt free sessions, but I've always politely declined.

Personally, the only scenarios, real, porn or imagined that get me hard are those involving women, and the right type of woman at that. I'm with WTW on this one. I think a married man who has gay sex just isn't straight, he's bi or closeted to some degree.

As to the urinal thing? Never looked myself, since the only dick I'm motivated by is my own, and I'm more than happy with it. It's always served me and the ladies in my life more than well enough. However, after reading a couple of posts on the topic, I used the convenience in a supermarket a couple of days ago so I looked up from my own business to the face of the 50-something guy next to me, and guess where HE was looking?

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Old 03-11-2006   #19 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by windtalkerways
If the religious fanatics would quit judging
every one and just live and let live...yes,
I know...Utopia...a lot of people would
not be getting married for the wrong reasons.
That is a big part of it...the stereotype of being gay, with the Streisand albums, gold chains, and syrupy speech patterns.

I dated a girl a few years ago. I truely liked her, but I didnt think it was fair to suck her into the garbage pit of sexual fecklessness that is me, so I let her go. For the same reasons, I dont let many guys into my life either.

Concerning being with married (and/or straight) men...Maybe I havent has enough sexual experiences, but I have not had sex with anyone who considered himself straight. I have been with a guy who was closeted, single and enjoyed being with guys (a Greek guy). The rest I have experience with have all strongly identified themselves as gay.
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Old 03-11-2006   #20 (permalink)
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If I had a dollar for every married guy
that has dropped to his knees at the
gym or ABS, I'd be far richer than I am
today. In other words MANY many men.
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Old 03-11-2006   #21 (permalink)
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I've slept with 2 guys who I believe were actually straight. They were guys I had good, fun friendships with who, I guess, felt a special attraction to me and wanted to experiment. Both times it was kinda awkward. I thought they were more into the idea of what they were doing.

Their have been some others who said they were straight, or curious, or whatever, but obviously were gay/bi.

I do often wonder if there is a large number of straight guys who would be getting their dick sucked by gay men, if there weren't all the social baggage.
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Old 03-11-2006   #22 (permalink)
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I think in a lot of cases "a stiff dick has no conscience" applies. I think there are a lot of men who identify as being straight who would get their dick suked by a guy, or more, if the right circumstances presented themselves and the social stygma wasn't what it is. Not all, but more than what do. I also think a lot of those who do would be less hateful to gays because they need to cover up their own feelings, but that's just my take.

Seriously, most homophobes I know are doing exactly that.



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Old 03-13-2006   #23 (permalink)
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Take this however you want.

I am married to a beautiful woman. She has a body that can still give me a hardon just thinking about her. I am 46 and she is 44. Looks 30 with 34D-23-34 body. I am starting to get a chubby just thinking as I am typing.

Now for the wierd part. I have hooked up with several guys who are very well endowed. Its has been a couple of years since I have done this. I dont know why but I have a thing for extremly well endowed guys. Normal everyday guys do nothing for me.

I will pick a woman over a man 100% of the time. When I am surfing porn I always surf for the hot girl but will stop for the big unit on a guy. Cant remember ever checking out a guy package in a bathroom or thru his jeans. But still I have on occasion sought out a very well endowed man through hook up lines. Call it what you want but I feel right or wrong that I am a straight guy who has a fetish for the big boys.
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Old 03-13-2006   #24 (permalink)
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. . . . I am starting to get a chubby just thinking as I am typing.
I've found that the chubby goes with the territory, beyondhelpin, whether str8 or gay. There seems to be something about sitting in front of the pc and getting a hardon, especially if all alone and free to give it attention now and then. BTW, in addition to keeping your wife happy, do you enjoy masturbating yourself and, if so, how often?
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Old 03-13-2006   #25 (permalink)
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Take this however you want.

I am married to a beautiful woman. She has a body that can still give me a hardon just thinking about her. I am 46 and she is 44. Looks 30 with 34D-23-34 body. I am starting to get a chubby just thinking as I am typing.

I have hooked up with several guys who are very well endowed. Its has been a couple of years since I have done this. I dont know why but I have a thing for extremly well endowed guys.
I mean no disrespect here, because for me sexuality of any sort is not a subject of ridicule or stigma, but you illustrate here the point I made earlier perfectly. I don't see how a man who usually goes for women but indulges in occasional gay sex can define their sexuality as heterosexual.

One can't call oneself a non-smoker if you have the occasional cigar, or a vegetarian if you have the odd MacDonalds. By my own personal definition, a primarily straight man who dreams of, and especially one who indulges in gay sex is bisexual.

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Old 03-13-2006   #26 (permalink)
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I've found that the chubby goes with the territory, beyondhelpin, whether str8 or gay. There seems to be something about sitting in front of the pc and getting a hardon, especially if all alone and free to give it attention now and then. BTW, in addition to keeping your wife happy, do you enjoy masturbating yourself and, if so, how often?
Yes and probally way to much. Usally have to have a nut 2-3 times a day.
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Old 03-13-2006   #27 (permalink)
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I mean no disrespect here, because for me sexuality of any sort is not a subject of ridicule or stigma, but you illustrate here the point I made earlier perfectly. I don't see how a man who usually goes for women but indulges in occasional gay sex can define their sexuality as heterosexual.

One can't call oneself a non-smoker if you have the occasional cigar, or a vegetarian if you have the odd MacDonalds. By my own personal definition, a primarily straight man who dreams of, and especially one who indulges in gay sex is bisexual.
The technical term I believe is nit picking. People define themselves.
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Old 03-13-2006   #28 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by EnglishGentleman
I mean no disrespect here, because for me sexuality of any sort is not a subject of ridicule or stigma, but you illustrate here the point I made earlier perfectly. I don't see how a man who usually goes for women but indulges in occasional gay sex can define their sexuality as heterosexual.

One can't call oneself a non-smoker if you have the occasional cigar, or a vegetarian if you have the odd MacDonalds. By my own personal definition, a primarily straight man who dreams of, and especially one who indulges in gay sex is bisexual.
So what you are saying is suck one d**k and your queer for life?!

If a pilot drives a car is he not still a pilot?
Is a farmer who works part time at another job is he not still a farmer?

I am just stating what I personaly feel I am. Other people may see it differently. I am a very masculine man . Zero feminine traits. I guess I could see how you could make an argument that I am not 100% hetro though.

We hang with people who are in their 30s and 20s. For the most part, the girls are smoking hot. The only reason I bring this up is my wife and and the girls, every once and a while, get to playing around light kissing and playing a little grab ass and boob mashing when we have been partying and dancing. This is more commom with the younger set than my age group. This is more for the guys than anything but they have fun to. There has never been a hook up with any of them, nor do I suspect there ever will be. Are they bisexual? I dont think so. Others may see it diffently.

Dont sweat it EGent. The first part of this post I am just playing with ya!

PS I have friends who are non smokers who will smoke a cigarette after partying once or twice a year. They and everyone else considers them non smokers!

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Old 03-13-2006   #29 (permalink)
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The technical term I believe is nit picking. People define themselves.
In that case congratulations!

You've just nit-picked a nit-picker!

"The fool who follows may bask in the glow of complicity, yet cowers in the shadow of free thought"

or put more simply

"Who's more foolish? The fool or the fool who follows him?"

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Old 03-13-2006   #30 (permalink)
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Quote:
Originally Posted by beyondhelpin
So what you are saying is suck one d**k and your queer for life?!

If a pilot drives a car is he not still a pilot?
I a farmer works part time at another job is he not still a farmer?

I am just stating what I personaly feel I am. Other people may see it differently. I am a very masculine man . Zero feminine traits. I guess you could make an argument that I am not 100% hetro.

Dont sweat it EGent. The first part of this post I am just playing with ya!
Well put beyond....

My involvement in this debate reflects my concern that people such as we on this board should not perpetuate the stigma surrounding sexuality. If an, albeit "slightly", bi guy such as yourself were to vehemently defend his heterosexuality when clearly the line is blurred, it serves to strengthen the bastions of prejudice. The apparent offence in such a defence makes a clear implication that there is shame involved in the admission of one's non-adherence to the accepted norm.

We here should be breaking down such barriers, not making them stronger, and I hope more people who straddle both sides of the fence will be able to stand proud and admit it, rather than hide behind a veil of "respectability".

The part of your post I have highlighted above is one which helps to represent the progress open minded people can make towards destroying the shameful marginalisation of homosexuality and bisexuality that persists worldwide.

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