As a married man who has a boyfriend--this is not all that unusual and it is extremely complciated. I started a thread a few days ago about this. Here is my post from there (As the thread did not catch on).
As many of you know, I am in a Mixed Orientation Marriage. I am out and open to and with my wife. I uncovered my desire for men a few years ago. My wife has been INCREDIBLY supportive and more understanding than I could ever even have a right to expect her to be. She is literally thre most amazing woman alive. I have a BF of 15 months who is also an amazingmentor along my journey into the world of homosexual men.
Feel free to search my threads titled "Coming Out," "Bisexuality," "Everywhere and Nowhere," and I think I did one on Mixed Orientation Marriage as well (I can't remember).
Here is the article: Many Couples Must Negotiate Terms of 'Brokeback' Marriages
I would be interested in some of your thoughts.
I do, however, I want to be clear. My wife and I set the boundaires of our marriage together. Think what you will--it is what it is and we are both incredibly happy. She has the option to kick my ass out at any point and time. Either of us can call "no mas" and be done. So far so good. God love NY hippie parents that raise their kids to be open minded.