Frigid yet horny?

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Is it possible to be horny and frigid at the same time?

Like if a woman is horny, wants to have sex, but is unable to have orgasms except through masturbation. The sex doesn't really do it for her, yet she likes the idea of having sex and seeks it out.

Or how about if a woman finally achieves orgasm from being given oral. Is that the sign of a thaw?

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Sounds like you just haven't met the right person. Not everyone can totally relax into sex unless they're with someone they really know and trust.

if the lady enjoys sex, is capable of orgasm during masturbation... umm is just not coming during intercourse and can orgasm from oral?

umm sounds like she's a clitty kinda gal.

*counts fingers* at least 11 women i can think of who don't orgasm with partners.. is just their thing. could be this ladies thing.

even without orgasms *well, leading up to orgasm for me* sex feels really damn good. so even if i didn't cum i would still get nekkid and sweaty.

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This kind of women sounds exactly like my current fwb. She is about 40 years old and when we first met, she couldn't orgasm except through masturbation. Every once in a while she could orgasm through oral, but it wasn't consistent and rarely happened. However, she still is extremely horny even though she has had a pretty frustrating sex life for her whole life. She does get off on the idea of a guy cumming inside her, even though she doesn't actually orgasm from it.

Fortunately, I've been able to figure out how to make her cum through oral regularly to the point that I made her orgasm in less than 5 min the other weekend (it used to take like 15-20min). So if the woman you described can orgasm through oral, there is a good chance she can do it regularly with proper technique, practice, and comfort level imo.

Frigid doesn't mean unable to cum, it means dislikes sex.

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I thought it ment mean!

I was thinking what you were thinking but according to Merriam-Webster it also relates to inability to orgasm from intercourse:


ETA: It's funny, men get to be 'horny and normal' whether they have a problem cumming from fucking or not - but women have a problem cumming from fucking and they get labelled 'frigid' with all the baggage that implies. Fucking typical.

A female friend of mine has told me that she is unable to orgasm through masturbation from what I understood her, but has no trouble with a partner.

maybe frigid is a state of mind. maybe her horny mood is just a state of body. maybe she needs the sex to scratch the itch, but she'd prefer not to.

love is a lie

dictionaries are misogynistic?
lol. figures.

love is a lie

I've never heard of a woman unable to orgasm being called frigid. It's always because she dislikes having sex, period. You know...how she just lies there and doesn't move during sex.

Frigid implies cold, heartless.

frigid implies dolf

love is a lie

No need to convince me - it's Merriam-Webster you need to talk to.

Sorry Manly...it wasn't you. It's the OP.

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I don't get it. Are you saying that "relax into sex" means having a vaginal orgasm during sex? And that having an orgasm from oral just isn't good enough, I haven't found the right person? Be very careful of what you say.

I have had an orgasm from intercourse, but not really, and not often. I was on top and essentially what I did was masturbate on his body while his dick was inside me. It was a clitoral orgasm. Is that what is meant by "orgasm during intercourse"? It wasn't that great. I much prefer orgasm from oral. (By the way, orgasming from oral is a new development for me...)

I found some links about frigidity that I want to share:

The Treatment of Frigidity with LSD and Ritalin

The Invention of the Unsexual (PDF)

The Treatment of Chronic Frigidity by Systematic Desensitization (PDF)

KTF40, do you think it is your technique that is getting her to orgasm regularly, or her comfort level with you, or both?

Negative, I am a meat popsicle.
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