11-18-2011
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Originally Posted by helgaleena  I do not think that makes me a fuddy-duddy. | I don't think so either, Helga. I think you are just saying what everyone else who has open relationships is saying. When you are pen, you don't have these issues.
The issues happen when people presume they are in monogamy and fail to work with the changes that happen and be honest about it. If you change lane without indicating, you shouldn't be surprised if there is a crash.
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As my Grandfather used to say, "If you are going to have a woman, why not have a beautiful one who wants to fuck you."
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11-18-2011
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Originally Posted by Drifterwood fuck off. | See what I mean?
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What do want?
A CURE FOR TOURETTE'S!!!
When do we want it?
CUNT!!!
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11-18-2011
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Originally Posted by helgaleena Let's face it, monogamy is less common than it is portrayed by our dominant cultures. However, cheating is still cheating, no matter who it's with. I myself cannot condone any sort of deception in a relationship and only engage in relations with both members of a couple at the same time. If one half of a couple wishes to engage with me, I insist on getting it okayed by the partner beforehand. | I wholeheartedly agree. For myself, I'm not into threesomes so that leaves me with the spouse's consent option. Quote:
Originally Posted by helgaleena That, or they need to break up. | Indeed. Except that's not so easy in the present financial climate. Quote:
Originally Posted by helgaleena I do not think that makes me a fuddy-duddy. | No, I think it makes you a sensible swinger, lol!  | | | |
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11-18-2011
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Originally Posted by MarkLondon Mild erectile disfunction (enough to make penetration awkward). And a difficult menopause (with no HRT). But there are treatments for both those conditions.
Last of the kids left home.
They had to sell up their business as financial crisis began a few years ago and have succeeded in establishing a new one.
In short, a full on mid-life crisis!
| Sounds like very typical experiences with both having to "suffer through" their part of the dillema..... not judging but sounds to me like they don't talk very much and probably haven't for years. So sad that many marriages end simply because the couples fail to communicate with each other.... (I guess there are those who expect that the other person should be able to read their minds, since they have lived with them for so long... )
Maybe one of those empty nest scenarios where, when the last one leaves the nest, they turn and look at each other and say "Who the hell ar you?"
If he/she still love one another they could save the marriage.... if they wanted to.... but then you say he is bringing back a side of him that has been laying dormant for a very long time.
If she is aware of this side of him (?) man, do they need to have a sit down and let's talk about this.... (IMO)
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11-18-2011
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Originally Posted by FancyPants Sounds like very typical experiences with both having to "suffer through" their part of the dillema..... not judging but sounds to me like they don't talk very much and probably haven't for years. So sad that many marriages end simply because the couples fail to communicate with each other.... (I guess there are those who expect that the other person should be able to read their minds, since they have lived with them for so long... )
Maybe one of those empty nest scenarios where, when the last one leaves the nest, they turn and look at each other and say "Who the hell ar you?" | I know, it does seem like that. I could weep. Quote:
Originally Posted by FancyPants If he/she still love one another they could save the marriage.... if they wanted to.... | I fear that at the moment they are bound together merely by property values, business interests, and social expectations. Quote:
Originally Posted by FancyPants but then you say he is bringing back a side of him that has been laying dormant for a very long time.
If she is aware of this side of him (?) man, do they need to have a sit down and let's talk about this.... (IMO) | No, she is not aware of his other side. She knows something's up, but she suspects it's another woman. Hence my question in my OP. I've asked him if he could talk about that with her, and he says not.
He's managed to avoid actually being found out. But his wife has noticed his mood lift - she told one of their daughters that he'd been a lot easier to live with recently, and they were getting on better. Although it speaks volumes that she didn't say it directly to him.  | |
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11-18-2011
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For those in open relationships, are there times where you have told your significant other no to seeing another person, or what would be something that would prevent you from allowing your significant other to see them. I was curious, but never asked anyone.
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11-18-2011
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Originally Posted by mr_ocean For those in open relationships, are there times where you have told your significant other no to seeing another person, or what would be something that would prevent you from allowing your significant other to see them. I was curious, but never asked anyone. | That's an interesting question. But I think I think it deserves a thread of its own.
Why not start a new topic in the Relationships forum?
And congrats on the de-lurking, btw! I lurked for a while too. | | | |
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11-18-2011
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Thank you, I have been visiting this forum for a year before I even signed up looking at some really good information. I figure if I visited enough maybe I should sign up. Now posting pics hmmm thats a different story, lol.
I did post the question in the relationship forums, thanks.
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11-18-2011
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Slice his cock and balls off. Then feed it to him.
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11-18-2011
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Originally Posted by mr_ocean Thank you, I have been visiting this forum for a year before I even signed up looking at some really good information. I figure if I visited enough maybe I should sign up. Now posting pics hmmm thats a different story, lol.
I did post the question in the relationship forums, thanks. | Lol, you don't have to post pics, and even if you do they don't have to be of your penis, unless that's what you want to be judged by. I don't show my todger...  | | | |
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11-19-2011
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Originally Posted by MarkLondon I fear that at the moment they are bound together merely by property values, business interests, and social expectations. | This is Social Monogamy, Mark. It is extremely common and it seems to work for a lot of couples, and it doesn't have to be wholly sexless either. Clearly some people get very hung up about the sex side of the relationship, but others don't, they can be open about it or turn a blind eye. The problems seem to occur when one party takes for granted that the other will accept a straight jacket not of their chosing.
Pun intended  .
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As my Grandfather used to say, "If you are going to have a woman, why not have a beautiful one who wants to fuck you."
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11-21-2011
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Originally Posted by mr_ocean For those in open relationships, are there times where you have told your significant other no to seeing another person, or what would be something that would prevent you from allowing your significant other to see them. I was curious, but never asked anyone. | The only restrictions we have placed on that are (obviously) no one carrying disease, and if anyone begins to meddle in our relationship, they've got to go.
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