Racism

If they said they don't like black people, then that is racist. If it's in the context of what they prefer, then no. It's all in the language. Being attracted to a specific race is not racist. If it is, then I am racist because I am attracted to white men more than black men, and black women more than white women.

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Nicely put!

Hmmmm. Difficult question. On the one hand, I think sexual attraction is sexual attraction... you can't dictate what someone finds attractive, nor can you demand someone find all others equally attractive... chemistry is complicated and I don't know how much of it is unconscious.

On the other hand, if someone is attracted to/feels chemistry with another person but won't date them, despite the attraction, because of their race then that to me is racist.

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Query whether I'd be considered racist if I was "really into Japanese girls" or I "loved having sex with black guys"?

Well put.

We all have a preference.

not dating someone because the are fat is not wrong. that's just a preference.

I dont date black guys
or gym rats,
or fem guys
or smooth/hairless guys

does that make me a bad person. No


I've been rejected because i was Hispanic, because I'm fat, and because i pierced my nipples. I never got angry or upset.

People have different standards and criteria.
if you don't meet them then, tough shit. Deal with it.

This world is becoming to sensitive.

and people have to stop using the "race" card.

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I don't know, that's why I wanted to see what others thought.

I was also considering more of a fetish rather than a preference... Like what Fade mentioned in her post. Maybe it wouldn't be considered racist if you fetishize a race, but it can get annoying...? Think of it another way, although I don't know how often this actually occurs between people - would you think that perhaps someone was interested in you only because of your race and not necessarily because of everything (else) that you are?

No, i don't think its racism :/

Racism is hating an entire race or thinking one race is superior to another or believing that race plays into whatever "superior" or "inferior" traits someone has. What you're talking about is prefference and its perfectly fine for people to be that way. Me for example, i will date anyone regardless of race but i will more than likely marry another white person (mostly someone else of germanic stock) simply because i want my children to look like me or my parents. There's nothing racist about that. Also people who say that "Were all the human race" and that there is no races are delluding themselves. There are clear biological differences between groups of people just as there is with different breeds of cats & dogs. For you to ignore all of this and ignore those differences....well thats just PC bs. Were all apart of the same species that does not mean we are all homogeneous.

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I ain't mad at you.

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Biological differences among races do not exist, WU research shows

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I would have to disagree. Alot of what people deem as a preference comes from what is considered to be more "preferential" or more "superior" than what the person would find acceptable.When it comes to race, alot of it has to do with just that. There are attractive people of every race. But I have seen people turned down because of their race, for an alternative that was basically the same color..ie black v/s some Hispanics. When a person says, I am not attracted to black for example, what is it they are referring to considering blacks come in all shades including that of middle eastern and Hispanics. When a person says" im not into Asians", the same thing applies. What is it about their human qualities that make them unacceptable to the person applying the judgement? Your reference to biological differences, what would those be? I understand your point, but I also think we have the ability to change our preferences when we are willing to broaden our minds and look at what we have in common . The same applies to age, culture, weight etc. Again, I have traveled alot of places, and the preference issue is more prevalent in the US.You rarely see dating sites abroad where people go as to say for example " Not into anyone over 25, no blks no Asians, and fats". Only here does it seem more acceptable to single out people and define what is considered to be attractive and acceptable.

You don't get it though. You being attracted to every group is still your prefference. Not everyone finds everyone aestheticaly beautiful and you just have to accept that. Some people aren't attracted to their own groups and others prefer to stay within their own groups. Ive seen Black guys who preffered non black women. Ive seen Italians blow off other Italian girls in favour of Swedish girls and the same vice versa. Different strokes for different folks. Also comparing other countries to the US just doesn't work, you're comparing populations where the ethnic population of that country is around 98% to a country like America who has NO ethnic majority. White is not really an ethnic group if anything its an umbrella term. Even all the whites in America come from all corners of Europe. You cannot compare America to more homogeneous nations of Europe & Asia.

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It's okay to have a preference, but is it necessary to express it in a personal ad for all the world to see?

If they found your personal ad, how would you explain to your overweight friends that your personal ad says you think overweight people are ugly?

If they found your personal ad, how would you explain to your (insert color here) friends that your personal ad says you think (insert color here) people are ugly?

The internet is a visual medium. If you don't find someone attractive for whatever reason, just click the delete button.

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Maybe not thinking they are ugly.....but lets face it, if you are black, you are NOT going to be attracted to every black chick... same with white guys......or whatever. Because I am a man, I am visual.....I know what i like.... My wife is black...but my first two GF's were white. I am still friends with my first GF after 41 years. Go figure right? I know i prefer white women who are either have pale blond (scandinavian types) with pale blue eyes, or dark skinned Italians....with Black hair (I love long straight black hair) and green eyes. I love black women.....if they are tall and shapely...some are too big...in the ass department. I really like Spanish chicks...especially the darker ones....Indian chicks...oh yeah....see a pattern here? Am I a racist....I used to think I was....but now I dont know.what do YOU think?

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There's a reason why these guys are featured on this website:

Douchebags of Grindr

Based on your all-inclusive preference for women of all different shapes, sizes, and colors, I doubt you would be featured on the straight equivalent of the grindr douchebags, blendr. Blendr - Social networking just got social.

By the way, I agree with Lilly Tomlin when she said the word douchebag is offensive to women.