How to approach my "straight?" friend?

Just bc a guy blows you doesn't mean you're gay, but certainly doesn't mean you're straight. However if you value your friendship more, let things happen naturally as they should, or get a 3 some w his gf. Good luck : )

Get a Video of Brokeback Mountain and watch it together and see how reacts.

This may tell you a lot.

travis has it on the money.... there is a massive difference between what you're fantasizing about and what the reality of the situation is.... you really should just go with the flow and not put any unnecessary pressure on him to come around to your own intentions.... that's presumably selfish, and your friendship is way more important than anything in this situation right now.... there are seriously a LOT of guys who dream about having this kind of friendship, and folks like me would hate to see it tainted by doing anything foolish.... this is seriously bromance at its finest and most innocent....

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I also agree with Travis. Your friend is probably scared, or at the very least uncomfortable. Having a "talk" probably isn't going to make him feel better, since no one ever really likes having a talk. People tend to avoid situations and people that make them uncomfortable, and he might end up backing away. You've told him that you're bisexual, which is great (instead of like me, who was open to same sex relationships but kept it to myself, so they never really happened). I would continue to be casually open about it and not pressure him. If he wants to come around, he knows you're there. Just continue to enjoy the friendship and have fun in school.

Good luck!

We talked last night. He says he does not remember what happened - but believes me. He says that "It just happened and probably won't happen again...actually, who knows?" He also said he would kiss and make out with me no problem. He told me that he really wants to be bisexual. I'm not sure what to think of all this, but I am happy. I'm going to wait and see what happens in the near future.

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Given your level of friendship I would say that you should talk things over with him at least to try and figure out what happened. I would probably be honest about how you are feeling. Things seem confusing so I would press but reassure him that no matter what you are his friend and will respect what he chooses.

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Should have read to the last page, awesome! Glad it went well, seems like things are progressing then.

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Ha, "he would kiss and make out with me no problem" and "he really wants to be bisexual"? I'm going to contradict my original response

Sounds like you've got a potential fun time at some point

Freud - to constrain sexual drives to socially accepted "norms" is something that we "learn."
Why is it so important to you whether someone calls themselves straight or not (unless they choose to berate gays)
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It takes more love to share my saddle than it does to share my bed

My opinion: he remembers, he likes it and would love to do it again but doesn't want to label himself as bi. Even if he doesn't remember, when you told him, his reaction would have been a lot different had he been against it. My advice - don't push the subject, but enjoy it and do what you feel like doing with him until he gives you an indication that he doesn't want to go there.

Here's an update for you guys:

Since that time, we've slept some nights in the same bed and cuddled/spooned (both in our only our underwear). Just recent;y, one of these nights, I made a move and slowly put my hand down on his penis and fondled him a bit. He responded by rolling over the other way. I then rolled the opposite way and went to bed. Soon later, I awoke to find him spooning with me. I DON'T UNDERSTAND. He has me so confused.

The next day we talked about what happened. I basically let out ever emotion I had been feeling over the past months. I even started to cry (against my will - it just happened). I told him that I had developed feeling for him and I didn't know what to do. That I was scared because I'd never felt feeling towards a guy before.

He said once again that he wishes he was bi but just isn't. That the thought of another guy touching his dick grosses him out. How does this make any sense? He's not afraid to kiss me, cuddle, spoon, or sleep in the same bed. I'm convinced that he would enjoy it if we would just try.

I was right about one thing, though. We are on a level of friendship that the whole scenario doesn't matter. He says this won't effect our friendship in any way and that he is here for me for anything, whenever I need him. Hopefully over the next year he will be more open to experimentation since we will be living together and be together 24/7.

I don't know what to do. I think about him every day. I think I'm feeling love for the first time. What do I do?

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Well, it looks like you can either fall in love with a guy who will just cuddle with you and never reciprocate the feelings you have for him back to you, or...

You can keep pushing him in hopes that he will eventually feel the same way you do, or...

You can just be friends with the guy and work to connect with another person who is able to express their sexuality the same way you do.

If it was me, I'd pick the third choice. Love is rough, and its no fun pining for someone who can't/won't express their feelings back to you. You run the risk of being devestated when he starts to date a girl, when he will be happily coupled and you will be left with nothing at all. Been there too many times.

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Freud - to constrain sexual drives to socially accepted "norms" is something that we "learn."
Why is it so important to you whether someone calls themselves straight or not (unless they choose to berate gays)
I Love him 100%, and his 50% belongs to me
It takes more love to share my saddle than it does to share my bed

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I will Say This. . as a perhaps (elder gay man), to you with life experience. I (HAD) a very good friend once in my life. . . and I learned a valuable life lesson about boundries. My buddy was fairly well endowed and always rocked a sizable buldge. we would hang out. . drink beers. . smoke weed. . shoot the breeze, and go to concerts and stuff.

I made the mistake, of telling him, that I had interest in him . in more than just friendship. After I did that. He stopped hanging out with me. . he stopped talking to me. . . And sadly to say. . I lost him as a friend.

It is after that experience. . that I learned that people sometimes have boundries as friends. . and as much as you can desire sexual interest in someone else. . they may not feel the same way. Your friend my have an internal struggle going on. . but what do you value most. . his friendship. . or a potential fuck from him. . All I am saying, is. . that if you approach him sexually. . you may not have the response that you wish for.

He knows that I feel feelings that are beyond a friendship. I told him this. I think I will just let whatever happens happen. It hurts so much thinking about him every day, rehearing him say he just isn't up for experimenting with guys.

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I lost a good friend through something just like this. We used to spoon in bed and on the settee and stuff.

Sometimes he would get into bed with me in the middle of the night, with nothing but underwear on, and spoon until the morning.

We were close, we used to go everywhere together. In the end I think I fell in love with him, developed really strong feelings for him. I used to get insanely jealous when he used to go out and see this girl he was fucking on a regular basis.

It really hurt that I lost that friendship and I think my mistake was letting myself fall for him in such a big way.

It sounds like you have a great friendship and it would be sad to see it fizzle out.

My advice would be to let things happen naturally, don't rush things.

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