best way to appraoch my girlfriend

seeking some opinions on a matter. im sure a lot of people out there would like to see there signifacant other change something about themselves weather it be a hair style, clothes they wear, stuff like that. or maybee im just an asshole, i dont know lol.

my question is, is there a polite non douche bag way to tell my girlfriend that i would like her to show more cleavage? shes got nice size breasts, a 34c. she is 25 and fasionable, but a bit conservative in the way she dresses. i would love to see her maybee sport a push up bra every so often with a nice v neck shirt or something. im not trying to be an asshole, but i love breasts and especially hers.

any opinions on this?

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Depends on your reason for asking. Are you asking her to show more cleavage cuz you get off on other guys staring at her or do you want her to dress more sexy around you so that other guys will envy you when they see her walking next to you? I once had a problem with a girl I was dating that wore way too little...too little for comfort actually and it bothered me a lot. I didn't want guys lusting over her cuz I genuinely cared about her and her well-being. If you're seeing her naked every night I wouldn't get too hung up on it unless she's dressing like a librarian or something. But on the other hand, for me there's something so hot about a conservative chick that let's it all loose in the bedroom...I get to see what no other man can. I'd say if she's putting out, just go with the flow. You can tell her what she's wearing now looks good, but she would look even hotter in a v-neck or something.

A big spraypainted sign that says, "SHOW ME UR TITTIES" couldn't hurt.

good stuff there man, thanks. its more for me, i love the look of nice cleavage is all. im also a large breast man.. i guess i shouldnt be too picky, shes a great girl and def has that concervative yet freaky in the bed thing going which is awesome.

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So play off of that. Tell her it really turns you on and she might be up for it. Most girls want to look attractive for their guys the same way you want to look attractive for them.

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This is a great answer. If she's as cool as you say, you should be able to have an honest, inquiring conversation about it without her thinking you are a douchebag. Explore her feelings about it as well as your own; it's possible she just never really noticed it before or is self-conscious about her breasts, and would be happy to dress a little more flatteringly.

You could also buy her something nice that shows her off but isn't slutty. Most better women's stores have classy dresses, blouses, and jackets that will accentuate her breasts but remain professional looking. Now that it's getting hotter, you should be able to find some great spring fashion she'd love to wear.

Sex is sexy without the why.

i found this video on youtube, its pretty much what im talking about as far as what im looking for her to look.

bigger boobs tutorial (breast chest whatever!) - YouTube

warning, girl in this video is prety hot lol

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I would say "those are greath you should share them with the world" and see what happend.
Its really her call, perhaps she is covering to look "good girl" with you, perhaps she had too much atention when showing some.

On the other side you should be ready to deal with lots of people lost on your girl cleverage, and i dont mean to fight them but to ignore them mixed with "the girl is with me" look.

regarding the approach: i would say contrary to the wind crawling till you are really close you tense all your muscles and jump saying boobies.

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Okay, so a lot of men responded with some great insight. First yeah, talk to her. :) Maybe I can give some insight into maybe why she doesn't show more, but then again, I'm not her and I'm simply speaking from what I kinda think....so here goes.

Maybe she is being respectful of you. For instance, maybe she doesn't want to show off her cleavage like the video because of the attention it draws. You can't be glued to her the entire time you are out, so when you hit the bathroom, whatever, she's there, alone with men around her who see that display of cleavage as a sign they can kinda hit on her or at the least blatantly stare. Who likes that? Maybe she does, maybe she doesn't.

Maybe she is simply not sure what you want, and maybe she's never considered wearing low cut tops that reveal her breasts. Talk to her. Maybe go to Victoria's Secret with her or their website (less public if she is against showing off cleavage and you need to talk through what she does think!). If you see a top you think would look great on her, try saying something like "you'd rock that top, I'd go nuts if you wore that out, 'cause you have such great breasts. I'd love it." That would probably let her know that you like her to show some breast, right? ;)

I know that when I wear a top like in the video you showed, that yeah, men stare to the point of making me uncomfortable. *shrug* But if she's with you, and you like it, than talk about it with her. Try it once and maybe be prepared for the attention she draws...lol

There is more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don't need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.
Audrey Hepburn

I'd let it go. If my wife asks my opinion about a particular top, chances are my brain will say, . My mouth will say, , and she'll know anyway and immediately cover up. Which leaves me . (she's a college prof and wants students to focus on the lesson, not on her....other assets.)

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If your having sex you can tell her you like her breasts


Sack up dude.

Get a new girlfriend.

You're sitting on a gold mine, Trebek

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I think NotSoDumb_Blond's idea is brilliant! Victoria's Secret has an awesome site with really sexy tops and dresses (among other sexy stuff obviously!). Find something you think she would look sexy in and show it to her. Tell her you want to buy it for her and you can't wait to see her in it!

Having said that... If she shoots you down, you can't push the issue. I have been self-conscious about my breasts most of my life (well for as long as I've had them anyway). I feel like I look like a bimbo when I wear a turtle neck ffs!! I will slut it up behind clothes doors for my boyfriend because it turns me on to turn him on! Hopefully your girlfriend will see it that way too? I'll keep my fingers crossed for you! Good luck!!

..:::cleverly disguised as a responsible adult:::..

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As often happens in such questions, you know your girlfriend, we don't. You know her personality, her sensibilities. We can just give vague tips, but we are not in a position to guess how she might react without stereotyping. So, think about what would be the best way to talk to her about it... Depending on how well you know her, this shouldn't a big deal at all, really.

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