I said once a week, I'm pretty sure it averages out to that, possibly less. I actually prefer sex to masturbation because when I masturbate I don't have penetration.
when I was without a partner it was probably even less than that -- I would get desensitized, you know how you have less sex because you're having less sex? yeah, I handle the girlparts more often when I'm getting laid more often, thinking about it, etc. but still not too much because I'll reach for cock first.
When I'm with a partner, it depends on how much and what kind of sex we're having. I've had a few partners who seemed to think of me as an animated tissue to JO into (not for long!) - I'd masturbate at least as often as we'd have sex. When I'm with someone who really gets a lot out of my pleasure and likes to have sex as often as I do, I sort of turn my sexuality over to them most of the time, and may only masturbate once or twice a month.
Using my vibrator I would do it anywhere from 4-6 times a week....and because I can be faster to climax with my vibrator, sometimes I will do it a couple times in a row...I would say not much changes when I have a partner. I mean sure I enjoy being with someone...but that is me time....time I take out of my week for me and me only and I enjoy and require it.
Dangerous ground there Lordpendragon, but I venture that I agree with you. Kind of makes sense anyway.
Speaking as a woman and for myself, he's right. You cannot enjoy sex to the fullest unless you know your body from (at least) a certain amount of self-exploration. I won't say that women who don't masturbate can't discover themselves through interaction with a lover, but women who know how to please themselves will not only respond well to a lover's touch but are also unafraid of exploring their lover's bodies and taking an interest in pleasuring them.
"There are two ways to reach me: by way of kisses or by way of the imagination. But there is a hierarchy: the kisses alone don't work.”
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Up until a few months ago I would have
answered a minimum of once a day, as
I have a very healthy drive but now I am
getting it as often as I want daily, there
is no longer the need for me to go solo. ;)
Before I got pregnant I masturbated five times a week Now I do it once a week,if that I feel odd about doing it now,I'm not sure why,but I think it's because I have another life inside of me now,who knows?