Don't know why you love someone

Has anyone else ever been cometely in love with someone but not sure why? In my experience it was someone I wouldn't generally find particularly attractive, wasn't my usual 'type', was older than me, not rich enough to be useful, treated me quite badly and didn't seem to see the pain they caused me but I loved them in spite of everything.
I knew (and was told) that I could 'do better', but I didn't want better... I just wanted that person. Anyone experienced anything similar?

I have a slightly bohemian view on this. I can tell you exactly why I don't like the people I'm not keen on. I think because love is intangible when it's not forced, you really shouldn't be able to say why you love someone, except that you do.

Does that make sense, or am I a romantic nutter?

And yes, I have experienced something similar, which caused me to be blinkered to the reality of the relationship.

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Yeah, the guys and girls I've "fallen" for... I could never ever quite explain why. There are some stuff I can pin point out, but overall it's pretty unexplainable.

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I believe I've known why I've fallen for every person I've ever fallen for, and pretty well understood why I still loved them after they no longer treated me well. I think it's because love doesn't simply abruptly stop the moment that someone you love does something hurtful or neglectful or doesn't return your affection. It would be so convenient if my heart worked that way, but it doesn't. I believe I still loved every man I've ever broken up with when I broke up with them. I just no longer believed that the relationship could be salvaged or that we would be happy together and there's no point in continuing if two people don't make one another happy. Does that make me romantic or cynical?

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It makes you practical

I understand what you mean; however, I often confuse pity with affection and end up resenting or being disgusted once I get to know the girl.

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Yep. I think most of us have experienced falling for someone we know is wrong for us. You find yourself praying: Dear Lord! Puhleeeeze don't let me fall in love with this fool!!! Sometimes it truly sucks mule anus to fall in love.

..:::cleverly disguised as a responsible adult:::..

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Yeh - cos you can't help yourself?

Something about them just does it for you - whether they have qualities you admire (or something about them that you can't put your finger on).

That's when I usually call it a day, also. If I can see no possible way for it to work, then it becomes demoralising and pointless.

Took the words out of my mouth, dude. :P

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honestly any time I have ever felt love for someone who I didn't have in my life the entire time, like family, I have not been able to explain why

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Sure have, it's called dereism:)

dereism - definition of dereism in the Medical dictionary - by the Free Online Medical Dictionary, Thesaurus and Encyclopedia.


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