Not really enjoying my orgasms?

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So I hooked up with this incredibly hot guy a few weeks ago and I've still been going over what he said after we finished in my mind again and again. We had just had sex and it was great and I made him cum hard but after he saw me cum and saw that I shoot little of nowhere when I cum he said maybe I'm not really enjoying my orgasms which has had me thinking a lot now. While I do enjoy sex as just about anyone would, I realize maybe I don't completely enjoy it if that makes any sense. Idk what it is. I know hours after a hook up I sometimes get this feeling like I'd rather have just jacked off instead of sex since out of my three best orgasms I've had, two were simply just jacking off before taking a shower. My best had to be my first time jacking off, during which my cum actually flew a bit like most guy's does. But since then I can't remember ever having an intense orgasm enough to cause my cum to go any further than my bellybutton, usually not even that far.

I know I enjoy sex and all but could maybe the post-guilt feelings I have every now and then after be what's causing me to shoot so little?

When you are stirred up and aroused and horny, that's your body telling you what it needs to do. The fact that you're hot to ejaculate is because your loaded prostate is signaling you that it's time to unload. The desire and ability to shoot a load are in your control, and the results depend on how healthy you are, your diet, the capacity of your prostate, when you last ejaculated, etc. If you have post-guilt feelings that's another thing...nothing to do with the cum load you had.

Don't concentrate on what your "incredibly hot guy" said to you. It's only his opinion, probably just something off the top of his head. Think about your desire, and how you are going to really savor the pleasure derived from stroking or sucking or fucking, with your cock or your partner's. Do what you have to do to stay aroused as possible, and anticipate the magnificent orgasm that's on the way.

You commented that your three best orgasms came from jacking off alone. Maybe that is the best way for you to satisfy your sexual need...relaxed, quietly on your own, in a private situation where you feel secure, etc. Do what works for you. Try to disregard the cum quantity, whether you cum with a partner or by yourself. Maybe you are jacking off too often so you're short on semen, or the pressure to shoot it. Anyway, there are a lot of men who don't have those fantastic long cum shots, but their orgasms are superb. Sex is great. Lighten up and savor every occasion.

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Not sure if I have ever heard of anyone relating cum shot distance/volume related to not enjoying orgasms. I am sure there are many factors involved in this.

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Well I stated that since I've always wished I could cum at least a little distance as I've mentioned around here a few times before. I feel sorta disappointed cumming since it usually just shoots a few inches and that's it. Being able to cum far enough for it to hit my chest would be a much better turn on and have me really looking forward to it since usually just seeing someone else cum far is enough to make me ready to cum whether I'm horny or not.

And while I do jack off just about every day, I never see much of a change even when I go a week without jacking off except for more of it coming out but little of no change in the distance.

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How far you shoot varies from guy to guy. Just one of those things, although the circumstances will affect whether its a long shot or short one within your own normal range.

As to best orgasms, I'm inclined to agree. Do it yourself and you do it right. Especially with practice, and I guess you do... Though theres probably just luck too: if you DIY more often than with someone else then just by random chance the best ones are likely to be by yourself because there are more of them. Its not the quality of the orgasm that makes it fun having sex with someone else but the whole experience. Familiarity with a partner can help because you get to know how to do it right for them.

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This guy may have been "incredibly hot" but maybe he just wasn't much to be with - personality, BO (bad pheromones?), and especially how interested he was in YOU.

So far as ejaculations are concerned, all your body cares is that your sperm reaches the outside world (and starts its long swim through a hypothetical uterus to a fallopian tube). For that reason, I don't think strength of ejaculation is related to fertility, so it's not evolutionarily determined.

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So there's no relation with the distance I cum and with how much I enjoy the orgasm? I rarely get the whole breathtaking/slight lightheaded feeling after cumming with someone else involved, but I get it often when I'm just jerking off alone before a shower. I just really want to shoot further and thought maybe what the guy mentioned had some truth to it. It wasn't anything bad on his part. As for smell and everything with him it was all nice, he was actually one of the best hook ups I've had since not only was he uncut and a decent size, he also enjoyed kissing and I didn't have to start it which was awesome.

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People will suggest kegel exercises, ie exercising the muscles involved in ejaculation so as to boost the force with which you shoot. It is hard to feel what is going on when you ejaculate but the whole thing is a complicated process with orgasm and ejaculation happening together but being separate things. They can happen separately. It may help if you can relax the muscles involved in ejaculation before you shoot and then try to go forcefully with it when you do. I think I once shocked a guy I was wanking off by keeping a finger on the urethra at the base of his penis as he started to come. Then I released it on the second spurt or so and it really shot out. Possibly arginine tends to increase the volume of semen and some have suggested make sure you are not dehydrated.

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Well I normally drink soda like Sprite or Pepsi so maybe I'll try drinking nothing but water for a week and see how much I cum afterwards. I'll try not letting go until the second pump too and see how that works.