Discovered a friend was gay on the internet..

Wasn't sure where else to post this...

So I was browsing man hunt and found a profile of a friend in my fraternity two years younger than me that I had no clue was gay/bi or what have you (ironically was our house's porn chair). I am not looking into doing anything sexual with him, but would like to talk to someone else that I know on a personal level that is going through the same things cause I don't know anyone else at the moment.

Would it be out of place to reach out to him? I don't want to "out" him so to speak even though I obviously wouldn't have any intention of telling anyone cause I was doing the same thing as he, but I want to be respectful of his privacy and can see how getting contacted like that might not be the best.

Thoughts?

send that to him. you've explained it clearly. he'll probably be glad to hear from you. if not, fuck him.

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I think only you know the answer to this. It depends on the nature of your friendship with him and how you think he would respond. Obviously, if he has an ad on manhunt.com, he can't be *that* secretive about it. and you don't express any doubts that it's him, so he must be identifiable. I vote that you drop him a line, saying you saw his ad (compliment it if you can, without being crude or misleading), and that you have had similar experiences. Say if he wants to grab lunch sometime, you would appreciate a friendly ear to talk with about things. Your tone will set the stage.

I am positive its him, I checked his Facebook and found the same picture. And you are right I guess someone that was looking on that sight and posted an instantly recognizable picture wouldn't be trying to hide all that much. We really just know each other from being in the same house and I am a little hesitant since this was a kid who was literally always bringing around girls and I think had a girlfriend. The fact that he was our porn chair makes me laugh too cause his emails were pretty graphic

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a friend of mine posted several craigslist ads in the m4m section a few years ago. i didn't even find them, a friend of mine did and messaged me the links on facebook. to be honest with you, knowing his background - "straight", from a black family that much like mine was conservative on social issues such as sexuality and even had recently broke up with a girlfriend before i found out about this - i left it alone. i've never mentioned it to him and likely never will.

my advice is to feel it out. your close friends and family are something you just know. if something must be done then it must be done, but timing is everything. if some things are best left to see reveal at their own pace, then let it happen. no need to force anything, unless your friend needs to seek help.

The thing is I am desperate for some to talk to which could be driving my motivation to reach out to him...I was thinking about going to see a professional cause things have been pretty awful the past year so maybe I will just leave it alone

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It's up to you how u approach this. Whats been said previously I'd agree with. IF u know him reasonably well and are confident enough to, I'd do it directly face to face and say pretty much what you said initially. Lay yr intentions out there and see where it gets u. He's likely to want some level of discretion so at worst yr relationship will stay what it and you ll have the option to chat about 'other' things too. :)

Why? are you in the closet? or is other stuff going on?

I dont see why he'd freak out if he put his picture out there on a public website. I would imagine he'd be happy to have someone else to talk to.

and what is a porn chair?

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Chairman of porn would be my guess.

dolfette is my huckleberry.

yyeeeahhh I kinda got that. I meant more of what is his function :)

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Reach out to him. Isn't that what a fraternity is supposed to be all about - having your brothers there to support you when you need it?
But, as was said above, stress that you're feeling isolated and want somebody to talk to who gets what you're going through. Mention also that as your frat brother, you're hoping he'll offer his trust in opening up to talk about things. Make it clear also that this is just between the two of you and that you have no intention of talking to anybody about it.
If he doesn't want to open up, then don't stop there. It sounds like you need somebody to talk to. There are a ton of guys here who would be more than happy to offer support, some of them probably local as well. Take a step to reach out, you won't be disappointed.
Let us know what happens.

I'm always open to receiving friendly hellos from anybody, but know that I try to limit my friends list to people I'm in regular contact with.

Obtains porn for brothers to use - ranges from Playboy/Penthouse etc subscriptions to providing links for a daily "video of the day." It's a semi-serious role, although depending on the level of porn addiction of the house, could be relatively important.

Blkbro510 is kind of the Porn Chair for LPSG

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Was hoping it wasn't a sorority hazing thing where the brothers of the house sit and jerk off on the newbie!! My imagination gets carried away @ times...

..:::cleverly disguised as a responsible adult:::..

I ran across a coworkers profile online once. Since we were both out at work, it didn't really make any difference.

Sarcasm is lost on so many people...

A US standard 12 oz beer can (Miller, Bud, NOT Coors) is 4.75 inches tall, 2.375 inches wide, and approximately 8 inches in circumference. That means that your "beer can" cock is nearly 20% shorter than average, and too fat to actually use. In doubt ? Take a picture for comparison, or insert a can into your orifice of choice and see how it fits.

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Is a porn chair common? I have NEVER heard of that before. Like others said, I think it depends on how close you are with te individual. Also, since you said they were the same pictures that were on Facebook, it's also possible that somebody made a fake account as a joke and stole his pictures... Or just stole his pictures.