Straight jock flirting with a gay guy

I witnessed something very interesting today at work. I work at a university in the food court, and today was a freshman orientation, lots and lots of people everywhere. I was people watching at one point, and noticed a flamboyant young guy; who appeared to be gay using my specialized gaydar . He was sitting with some girls, and at one point a very tall, very muscular jocky looking guy approached the table. He seemed to know the girls, so I didn't think much of it, except for his interaction with the possibly gay guy. He took his hand, and they pulled each other in for a semi-awkward hug, but lingered for a good while as the more effeminate guy leaned in and whispered things into the frat boy's ear and their interaction became very flirtatious, ending with the bigger guy laughing it off. I then noticed one of the girls, making some kind of joke, reach out and pinched the big guy's nipple through his shirt (and trust me, his pecs and nipples were quite visible through it). Then, just before the jock left, I saw him playfully grab/slap the gay guy's butt and then he walked away with one of the girls. This little show left me turned on, confused and desperately wondering what the relationships between all those people are exactly. Does it sound like a straight guy just being playful and silly with a gay guy? Is it more likely this "straight guy" is actually gay?

Been in a fraternity and on a sports team. One thing I can tell you about straight boys. They are very strange. I think when I go back to school, I will do a thesis on them. In my experience, straight guys run the gamut when it comes to dealing with gay guys. It seems to me that the ones that are the least phased by gays and such are guys that have the mindset to be fraboys, jocks and soldiers. That's not to say they ALL are cool with it, but by the nature of the organizations they're a part of could imply a certain level of...indifference. Of course, there are the guys in those groups that will gay bash because they feel that's what they are expected to do.

If a straight guy feels comfortable with another guy, gay or straight, "acting" gay is done for entertainment. Good sign of a secure dude and potentially a good friend.

Anyway, that's just been my experience. Individual results may vary. :)

that dude aint straight. **stirs** lol

Thanks!

I guess if what the OP witnessed was done in fun and the both the straight guy and gay guy [or should I say the flirter and the flirtee?] knew it, then it's harmless. If, on the other hand, if the straight guy was leading the unwitting gay guy on, then that strikes me as unnecessary and even bordering on the socially cruel –*even though flirtations, by their nature, don't necessarily lead any further anyway.

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I think your confusion, desperation and wonder are all based in your assumption that people fit into narrow castes of gay, bi and straight. It would be much better for you to accept that there are infinite shades of gray between the black and white extremes of 100% straight and 100% gay.

If God had intended us to run around without our clothes on we'd have been born naked.

Straight guys like attention.

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my best friend and i have had very gay interactions since we met; the reason i kept hanging out with him initially was i thought he was gay. he'd smack my ass, hold hands, occasionally kiss me in public (and some other things in private :P). people thought we were dating for years, despite us both being in relationships. sexually comfortable straight men are the best.

If your curiosity is killing you go up and ask the fem gay guy what the deal is with him and the jock. He'll tell you.

What's the use making fantasies and scenarios in your head.

Growing up I was always active in sports and had a very close group of male friends in high school. Back at that time I was totally closeted, and in my circle of friends we all acted a little homoerotic. This went from slapping each others ass in the locker room with a hand and towel to measuring up aginst each other. Me as a teenaged closeted gay guy this was kinda like heaven. There was one friend of ours we all suspected may be gay but that didnt stop us from acting the way we did. So maybe these two guys went to high school together and they are like that with their male friends.

Don't you ever, don't you ever, stop being dandy showing me you're handsome! Prince Charming, Prince Charming, ridicule is nothing to be scared of. Don't you ever, don't you ever stop being dandy showing me you're handsome!-Adam Ant "Prince Charming"