Originally Posted by Alex Chambers
Seriously, though, whenever I have heard about a guy asking "am I hurting you?" I always secretly wondered if he was just engaging in some "wishful thinking" (I will ask her if I am hurting her and if she says "yes" then I can be assured that I am a well-hung sex machine).
Spoken like a true midget!
Yes, you've perceived the fraud underlying this whole site. It's all wishful thinking.
Hogwash. Take it from the real thing. After one has caused a few surprise (and doubtless inadvertent) shrieks of pain and alarm - and those do
tend to ruin the mood, unless one is really into that sort of thing - one does start to take the problem of pain fairly seriously. Disbelieve it if you prefer, but it's still true.
Your "solution" isn't a solution, it's a tautology. And choice doesn't come into it. If it won't fit, it won't fit. A conscious choice of just how far to go is not
the question here.