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I hate to admit it, but my boyfriend of over a year is just not cutting it for me. My story is the typical lost girl who gets her life back on track. I'm 20

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Old 09-17-2006   #1 (permalink)
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Boyfriend's Penis is too small

I hate to admit it, but my boyfriend of over a year is just not cutting it for me.

My story is the typical lost girl who gets her life back on track. I'm 20 years old, but as a teen I was a wild girl. I was really into the hip hop scene which lead me to sleep with quite a few black guys (not more than 10). All of whom were big, and while i never measured any, a lot seem twice the lenght and thickness of my boyfriend.

My mom moved towns to live with her sister and since then I've become a rather good girl. I'm in College now doing Architecture so my life has changed quite a bit.

Ok but enough with the life story an not into the sex.

I met my bf when i now started college. He's a very cool, fun, smart guy. He doesn't know much about my past exploits, but he knows I wasn't a virgin...unlike him.


I fell for him because i was so lonely when college started. Despite my past, I'm not a typical party girl, so I made little friends at first.


However, upon making out with him the first time i realized how much smaller he was compared to my exes.

He's about 5'', possibly less, and about 4.5'' around. Which I'd say is very small.


I have many problems with this size. I used to love straddling my exes while we made out. However, with him it's almost pointless since I barely feel it.

Another problem is that I used to love dirty dancing, aka grinding. Mainly due to the dick rubbing pussy contact. However, again sometimes while dancing with him, I don't even know if he's hard. Pardon the pun, but that is a huge contrast to dancing with other guys I knew. When i grind my ass on him at clubs, I simply never feel his penis. This has basically killed my fun in dancing.

On the other hand, sex is both good and bad. I love him and we're very passionate and I do cum from penetration. But ofcourse sex has its problems. I think I've only had one vaginal orgasm with him and that was because I forcing his penis deeper inside and while squeezing my pussy really hard around his penis.

With him, there are only two positions that pleasure me. Missionary and me on top riding him.

Almost all others, I just don't feel him, or he's not long enough to do it properly.

The worst by far is doggy style which was my previous favourite. I simply can not feel him in that position. Honestly while he penetrates me, I just don't know if he's hard, if he's fully in or what. It's hopeless.

Now, does he know my feelings?

Yes and No. He doesn't know how much bigger guys I've had and how much better they felt. But Yes he knows that some positions and acts, he doesn't provide much pleasure, but he may think its just me (which it honestly could be).



I'm really sorry for the long post, but it has been bothering me a lot.


What should I do? I do love him, and he cares so much about me. Despite my rantings, our sex life is not horrible as I cum almost everytime we have sex. However, he honestly doesn't fully satisfy me.

Should I just learn to deal with it? Or should I end it now because it doesn't make sense continueing if he doesn't fully satisfy me? Should I make him use dildo's, penis extensions or strap ones? Or is that just being shallow and selfish?
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Old 09-17-2006   #2 (permalink)
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i vote you go the route of penis extensions and strap ons. i know if it were me i would want to know i wasnt pleasing you, and i would do anything to fully satisfy you. so bring it up, and more than likely it will be a turn on for him and the wildest sex he has ever had.
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Old 09-17-2006   #3 (permalink)
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Kotchanski
He needs to know, but be sensitive about it when you talk to him, make suggestions about other things you could try together, dildos and such.

As for should you end it.. you say you love him, so why is this even an option? Is sex really more important than love and frienship? Stick with him and work on things together, it may take time, but it will be worth it in the end
Well I've been with him for over a year now. It didn't take longer than a week to realize that he was significantly smaller. Yet, I'm still with him.

In the beginning, it honestly didn't matter. I always thought my pussy would adjust (btw I've been doing kegals for almost 7 months now), or he'd learn other ways to satisfy me.

It's only now I'm begining to feel a bit confused as to what to do. Should I be content? Why is it so hard for me to be content?

What really upsets me is that I know if wasn't such a slut a few years ago, I'd have nothing to compare him with and I'd be so happy and content with him sexually.
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Old 09-17-2006   #4 (permalink)
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It sounds as if you are naturally built for a bigger guy if seven months of kegals has made little difference.

The issue about toys etc is that you will be effectively telling him that his cock isn't big enough for you most of the time. But then should he be given the respect to have a choice about this? He may decide to leave you and I imagine you are scared of this.

It's a difficult one - maybe this isn't the right board to ask the question. I'm sure there are better one's where many women have successfully compromised over smaller penises. More here have to compromise over too large ones.
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Old 09-17-2006   #5 (permalink)
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Dayna
I hate to admit it, but my boyfriend of over a year is just not cutting it for me.

My story is the typical lost girl who gets her life back on track. I'm 20 years old, but as a teen I was a wild girl. I was really into the hip hop scene which lead me to sleep with quite a few black guys (not more than 10). All of whom were big, and while i never measured any, a lot seem twice the lenght and thickness of my boyfriend.

My mom moved towns to live with her sister and since then I've become a rather good girl. I'm in College now doing Architecture so my life has changed quite a bit.

Ok but enough with the life story an not into the sex.

I met my bf when i now started college. He's a very cool, fun, smart guy. He doesn't know much about my past exploits, but he knows I wasn't a virgin...unlike him.


I fell for him because i was so lonely when college started. Despite my past, I'm not a typical party girl, so I made little friends at first.


However, upon making out with him the first time i realized how much smaller he was compared to my exes.

He's about 5'', possibly less, and about 4.5'' around. Which I'd say is very small.


I have many problems with this size. I used to love straddling my exes while we made out. However, with him it's almost pointless since I barely feel it.

Another problem is that I used to love dirty dancing, aka grinding. Mainly due to the dick rubbing pussy contact. However, again sometimes while dancing with him, I don't even know if he's hard. Pardon the pun, but that is a huge contrast to dancing with other guys I knew. When i grind my ass on him at clubs, I simply never feel his penis. This has basically killed my fun in dancing.

On the other hand, sex is both good and bad. I love him and we're very passionate and I do cum from penetration. But ofcourse sex has its problems. I think I've only had one vaginal orgasm with him and that was because I forcing his penis deeper inside and while squeezing my pussy really hard around his penis.

With him, there are only two positions that pleasure me. Missionary and me on top riding him.

Almost all others, I just don't feel him, or he's not long enough to do it properly.

The worst by far is doggy style which was my previous favourite. I simply can not feel him in that position. Honestly while he penetrates me, I just don't know if he's hard, if he's fully in or what. It's hopeless.

Now, does he know my feelings?

Yes and No. He doesn't know how much bigger guys I've had and how much better they felt. But Yes he knows that some positions and acts, he doesn't provide much pleasure, but he may think its just me (which it honestly could be).



I'm really sorry for the long post, but it has been bothering me a lot.


What should I do? I do love him, and he cares so much about me. Despite my rantings, our sex life is not horrible as I cum almost everytime we have sex. However, he honestly doesn't fully satisfy me.

Should I just learn to deal with it? Or should I end it now because it doesn't make sense continueing if he doesn't fully satisfy me? Should I make him use dildo's, penis extensions or strap ones? Or is that just being shallow and selfish?
Move on from BF status to FWFFWIW (Friends who f*ck for whatever it's worth). You claim to love him, yet met him out of desparation for a solution to college loneliness. New girl in town, spread you legs to make new male friends, hardly a unique story. You are going to meet those that want to do the same for you. Doesn't make either of you the bad guy in the whole process. College, you are there to educate yourself and learn. So is he, not every handshake @ introduction ends in a lifelong friendship or soulmate. It sounds to me like you know what you're after sexually, go do/get it done and stop worrying about an answer you already know/have. That guy will deal with it and move on just the same too. He may not even have you on the "A" list for the long term.
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Old 09-17-2006   #6 (permalink)
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well, suggesting the use of dildos should be no problem. Extensions and especially strap-ons may hurt his feelings very hard. Be honest about it. But be sensitive as stated before.
Just don't go on without telling the truth and feeling uncomfortable


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Old 09-17-2006   #7 (permalink)
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Snakebyte
well, suggesting the use of dildos should be no problem. Extensions and especially strap-ons may hurt his feelings very hard. Be honest about it. But be sensitive as stated before.
Just don't go on without telling the truth and feeling uncomfortable
has any one of you used strap-ons or penis extensions? How comfortable are they for us?
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Old 09-17-2006   #8 (permalink)
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I agree do not suggest strap ons or extensions to him. However you can ask if you can introduce a big dildo into your sex life. I am sure he would go along with this just fine. Put a spin on it, like you want to give him a show. Or you want him to fuck you with it. Then in return ask him if he wants you to do something for him. Maybe he will want you to dress up as a cheerleader or something, who knows, it could be a deliciously wonderful trade the sends your sex life into the stratosphere.

The thing about rebounding and finding this guy and settling sounds like bullshit to me. You wouldn't be on here asking this question if you didn't REALLY LOVE or at least CARE for this man so your relationship sounds good to me.

Just don't hurt him. Extensions and straps on are like taking away his manhood and that would be painful to almost ANY guy. Don't do that to him, he doesn't deserve that. No guy deserves that actually. But the introducing sex toys into your relationship might work for you two and you might REALLY love it. Ask him to lick on your clit while he fucks you will the dildo you two buy together. Let him be a part of it, and he will have NO PROBLEM I can assure you of that...

Who knows it could be a fantasy of his also. I know if I were with a girl and she wanted to do that it would turn me on. Cause then I would get to pick something to try and that would make me horny as hell...

I am a member of the third leg society...9 inches soft, NOT much bigger hard, but about 7 inches around also...no complaints most of the time...
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Old 09-17-2006   #9 (permalink)
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Let me see.....you joined a Large Penis support group today, to tell everyone that although you "love your boyfriend very much" he's too small. I'm not quite sure what the point of your post is and I believe that www.measurection.com is more what you're looking for.


I seriously believe that if you had any feelings for him you would discuss this matter privately and together, not in a large penis forum. I apologize if this comes across as aggressive, it's not meant to be. Just realistic.

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Old 09-17-2006   #10 (permalink)
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My dear you stretched your pussy out with huge cocks,your own fault The problem isnt your boyfriends cock is to small. Its that your pussy is too big You got yourself into this. Get yourself out of it
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Old 09-17-2006   #11 (permalink)
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You should never tell a guy that his penis is too small. That would totally kill all his self-confidence for a very long time. If you stay with him he will always be jealous on other guys and maybe even leave you. If you leave him he will have BIG troubles to go on and find a new girl.

I don’t think girls can understand how important penis size is for guys. To feel too small is like feeling worthless for most guys. Maybe there are guys that learn to deal with it but then I guess they have to sacrifice a lot of things along that road.

I’m big myself, 8 inch, but the fact that my girlfriend has been with one guy, one night, a long time ago that also was that big has sometimes driving me crazy! I know that it sounds silly!!!! But I have learnt that that is the way almost all men works. We want to be the biggest, and if that is not the situation, we don’t want to hear about it.

Sorry if my English sucks… I’m not used to write in English. But this was too important.
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Old 09-17-2006   #12 (permalink)
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Once they have that huge meat thats it! Its over with.

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Old 09-17-2006   #13 (permalink)
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Real Jersey meat!
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Old 09-17-2006   #14 (permalink)
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Skull Mason
Real Jersey meat!
Thats right Mason! Its the water in Jersey All the men are horse hung

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Old 09-17-2006   #15 (permalink)
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I'm gonna be blunt. I'm gonna say exactly what I'm thinking. Please just hear it out, man.


You're twenty years old. You say you love this guy. That's fine.

The chances of you two getting married may be high or not..........the chances of you staying together forever (considering divorce rates) are very low.

You say you love this guy, but if there's problems like this that really........can't be fixed.....lol then..I derno. I wouldn't stay with him.....*sigh* BUT first things first. There may be a solution to this somehow, but only if he's really secure with himself. If you don't bring this problem to light, you're just gonna find another problem to break up with him.

It sounds like this situation is eating away at you. You feel terribly guilty....and you should never feel guilty about what you want.
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