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I'm heading to the same problem, I think. I have a summer roommate coming today who is just staying for two months while he does an internship. We've never met but from the emails we've

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Old 05-27-2013   #16 (permalink)
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I'm heading to the same problem, I think. I have a summer roommate coming today who is just staying for two months while he does an internship. We've never met but from the emails we've traded back and forth I'm sure we'll end up sleeping together. He's SAID IT - that he looks forward to us cuddling and sleeping together!! BUT he has a BF of two years. I put the brakes on as soon as I heard that and told him that that is a no go for me. Friends tell me just go with the flow, enjoy the summer fling and let him go back to his BF at the end of the summer. I'm usually not wired like that - to sleep with someone in a relationship - but maybe I'll be ok with this two month thing. I mean, he's apparently ok with it.
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Old 05-29-2013   #17 (permalink)
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My old roommates were together for 13 years and had an open relationship. We used to have 3somes all the time or one of them and i would fuck. I made sure to not get attached and it was great. They were my best friends and we got to fuck the shit out of each other. But all along i knew i couldn't get in the way of their relationship. Set boundaries and stick to them. Have fun!
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Old 05-30-2013   #18 (permalink)
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Ask your roomate how he feels about you. Maybe he isn't attached to anyone and likes you a lot. After all you said he was crushing on you when you first met. You all need to talk it out, who knows maybe he is into you and wants a relationship with you.
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Old 05-31-2013   #19 (permalink)
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Straight up.... Get your bedroom in order A.S.A.P. then you can live together and see how the "friendship" unfolds naturally. Having a talk about your feelings is not a bad idea. get things out on the table but you ALWAYS have to be prepaired for heart break if he does start beinging other boys home.
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Old 05-31-2013   #20 (permalink)
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So I recently moved in with a friend which we met in January of this year. I never thought I would be sharing a place with someone I met in such a short time. But, it has happened. He is a very nice, strong, determined, hard working individual. To set the record we are both gay. Anyhow, I always found an interest in him, and he admittedly said he had a crush on me in the beginning stages of knowing each other. Now he is more kinda casual with the likes, and very friendly.

We both live in a two bedroom apt, and just moved in 1 week ago from today. Our rooms are not yet settled, so we are both sharing a bed together. One night we just started tickling each other, which led to play wrestling, and it was over. Several nights afterwards tickling led to fondling, and fondling led to cuddling.

I want to make sure things don't end up on the wrong end, and keep things mutual. But the fact is there is an "interest" involved here. What should I do? Keep playing around like this? Or put a stop to it, before it goes you know where. I heard having a roommate which you see as a romantic love interest isn't healthy? is this True?
I've moved plenty of times, with and without roomies. I've never slept in anyone's bed because my room was "unsettled". You guys have the hots for each other--just lean over and suck his dick.
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Old 06-01-2013   #21 (permalink)
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In the area where I live we had a guy kill the other guy over a situation like this.They had split and the dead guy had a boyfriend. Now the "room mate" is dead and the other one is on his way to jail. I will say judge, carefully and no more.
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Old 06-04-2013   #22 (permalink)
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Thanks guys for the answers and suggestions. We sat down and talked about it. Oddly enough, he feels the same way about me. Meaning there is in fact an "interest". We both agreed to do counseling together when and if necessary. I think the best thing is to take it slow, and still have fun with our ways. I been getting to know him a lot and I really like where its all going. Thanks for putting things in perspective, because no one should jump into something. My greatest challenge will have to be catching myself, and not to slip unnecessary moves.
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Old 06-04-2013   #23 (permalink)
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will i think that the important thing here is that you two have talked about it and your concerns. It helps that you two feel the same for eachother. at this point you have to let nature take its course and see how it plays out.
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Old 06-04-2013   #24 (permalink)
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In the area where I live we had a guy kill the other guy over a situation like this.They had split and the dead guy had a boyfriend. Now the "room mate" is dead and the other one is on his way to jail. I will say judge, carefully and no more.
That's like saying, "Judge carefully if you want to have babies, because this one lady that my cousin's co-worker used to know told her husband that she wanted more kids and he said that he didn't so she superglued his dick to his stomach while he slept."

There's a fine line between Cautionary Tale and Non Sequitur.
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Old 06-04-2013   #25 (permalink)
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My old roommates were together for 13 years and had an open relationship. We used to have 3somes all the time or one of them and i would fuck. I made sure to not get attached and it was great. They were my best friends and we got to fuck the shit out of each other. But all along i knew i couldn't get in the way of their relationship. Set boundaries and stick to them. Have fun!
God I wish I was in that boat...
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Old 06-06-2013   #26 (permalink)
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if you go further sexually be careful. Not that you will, but it is easy to fall for someone you can cuddle with.
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Old 07-02-2013   #27 (permalink)
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There's no simple answer to a question like this. Too many variables to consider.

Primarily, the answer depends on three things: 1.) What kind of person you are, 2.) what kind of person he is and 3.) where do you want this relationship to go? Are you the kind of person that can handle a sexual relationship without becoming emotionally attached? Is he? If you do become attached and things don't work out, will you be able to handle the way this upsets your living situation? Is your attraction to him more than just sexual and is he someone you could see boyfriend potential in?

These are all factors that you need to consider when you make your decisions about how to navigate this relationship. Be honest with yourself about what you want and make up your mind, before hand, how you'll handle the consequences of your actions if things don't work out the way you'd like them to.

Me, for instance? I'm a master at compartmentalizing. It wouldn't trouble me in the slightest to have a sexy roommate who spent 90% of his free time with my cock balls-deep in his ass and then to turn right around on a dime and be like, "Hey, you ate one of my yogurts! You owe me $1.17, you bitch."

There is just SO MUCH epic WIN with that scenario! I co-sign this, and want that in MY life!
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