Originally Posted by dragon_9
saying a guy is small or trying to make up a guy who is bigger is a means of control. my point being is if I'm feeling good about myself why can't I.
Don't like to fuel this particular fire, but I can see what Dragon is saying here and there are indeed *some* who will do that. Stories about my last girlfriend's ex's (and my own insecurity) initially brought me here. After spending a lot of time reading here, I found that much of the big dick info I had soaked up over the years was bullshit and I ended up less
insecure and more comfortable with my body (or that
particular part of it) than I had been before. Not only was the girlfriend NOT happy to see me comfortable or proud of my body in this way, it was almost as if she resented me for it and began staging phony conversations to try and knock me back down or something.
I know that makes it sound as if I became some sort of blowhard asshole, but IRL, I'm the last person in the world who goes around bragging about his body and I can assure you I didn't come off like that.
I guess the bottom line really is that if you're close to someone who is not
happy to see you proud of your body (but not to the point of obnoxiously proud
), then you need to move on, as there are way too many who will work to build you up
if they care about you.