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Dating vs. Seeing Each Other, What's the Difference?

Originally Posted by njqt466 Perhaps I should amend or at least clarify my original post. When I am seeing someone it's pretty much the getting to know you stage. We go to movies, dinner, dancing,

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Old 08-04-2007   #16 (permalink)
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Perhaps I should amend or at least clarify my original post.

When I am seeing someone it's pretty much the getting to know you stage. We go to movies, dinner, dancing, the theater, etc. I have a poor attention span and a lousy memory so I rarely see more than two men at once. Anywho when in the seeing someone stage I'll makeout but, I don't have sex. Men hate it when you call them the wrong name in bed.

When I say I am dating a guy, I mean I am with one man. I am not looking around for the next best thing. I don't have a fuck buddy or a friend with benefits whom I am also seeing for sex in addition to the man I am dating. When I say I am dating, I have made an emotional and physical commitment to be with one just one man.
i mean depending on the context.....like if sum1 asks u r u single n u say im seeing sum1 ok then that seems like ur commited, buuutt same bout dating u can say o we're jus dating....it really all jus depends

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Old 08-04-2007   #17 (permalink)
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Not to add any confusion to the post but, around here the kids are saying that they are "going out" . That means according to the ones I have ask: although they go to the movies or out to eat and or have sex: that it is not a serious relationship and they can go out with someone else the next night and another and another.

My take on dating vs. Seeing each other is: dating is just to see is the relationsip is gonna go anywhere and seeing each other means things have gotten more serious and commitments are somewhere close by.
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Old 08-05-2007   #18 (permalink)
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Oh, I think it's a cultural thing. North Americans seem to 'date' many people at the same time and see where it goes. A very good friend of mine lived in North America and a lot of problems with this. In Australia, New Zealand and Britain if you like someone then you keep 'seeing them' you don't 'see/date' other people - this means you are 'cheating'. Why would you want to date/see other people if you like this person? If you don't like them then you stop 'seeing/dating' them and find/meet someone else. We don't later have a discussion about being 'exclusive' that's assumed.
In some parts of the US it's this way too. Where I grew up, people always date one person at a time exclusively. I really didn't date much there, but the one or two times I did, it was one at a time. (I had problems finding dates where I grew up. I didn't fit in with the community.)

I've had an odd experience - living with one guy, and dating or having FWB besides the guy I was living with (it was an open relationship - he was aware of this and had no problem with it as long as I didn't rub it in his face). It actually worked out pretty well - the guy I used to live with and I are still very close friends and occasionally FWB (like when he came down and helped me move last week).

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Old 08-05-2007   #19 (permalink)
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'Dating' someone and 'seeing' someone can mean the same thing, so you have to go by context or ask the person what that means to them. Of course, if you ask, then they may looked at you like you're weird and socially retarded for not understanding.

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Why would you want to date/see other people if you like this person? If you don't like them then you stop 'seeing/dating' them and find/meet someone else. We don't later have a discussion about being 'exclusive' that's assumed.
It's not that simple. How does one know that he or she won't like someone else better? I can see your point though that you date them until they give you a reason to not like them, then move on. Some people don't want to move on until they have someone else to be with; they don't like that in between period. (I don't agree with it.)

My take is when you start 'going out' with someone you should try to convince them to like you and convince them that they probably can't do better. I mean make them feel like it's not worth trying to find someone else because you can make them happy and give them everything they need. If you can do that, then you can demand exclusivity. I don't like some sort of societal rule that says after x dates/weeks the relationship should be exclusive. And if you're not good enough to make them feel like they can't do better, then take a step down and date people that will be happy to be commited to you.

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I agree on that, lots of people now seem to say I prefer to play the field, how anyone can prefer playing the field to being with someone they love I don't know.
Maybe they haven't met someone they love, but still get lonely or horny. But I agree being with someone they love would be the ideal situation (for me at least).
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Old 08-05-2007   #20 (permalink)
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When it's because they haven't met someone they love of course they'd want to carry on dating, but I have met several people who found someone that was ideal for them and they adored but because they felt they were too young to settle down or their plan had been to play the field they let this person go.
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Old 08-05-2007   #21 (permalink)
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I consider the two terms synonymous and use them interchangably. To me, "dating" means you're seeing each other but haven't yet reached exclusive monogamy yet. Once a woman is my girlfriend, we no longer go on "dates". If she's my girlfriend, then we're a couple, and we go places and do things together as a matter of course. But that's just me.
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Old 08-05-2007   #22 (permalink)
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I think if you are asked are you single; If you say you are dating, that may mean that they can have a date too. But if you say I am seeing someone, that seems like you are off the market.

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