Trying to achieve a totally hands-free (or more accurately "physical stimulation-free" climax or "mental ejaculation", other than a wet dream) is not easy for most guys, and it certainly wasn't easy for me. In fact, I have only achieved this once or twice in my life. In the video link I posted above (Link - Hands-Free Cum Eruption video
), as you will see, I was actually pressing down on the base of my penis to help get me to climax, so it wasn't a "true" mental ejaculation (nor truly hands-free), but almost.
You mentioned that your peak is two days after last wanking, this will vary from guy to guy. I have found my peak is 10 days or so after last ejaculation then it goes downhill. I have tried abstaining for 6 months (and made it!) but wasn't able to achieve a hands-free climax from doing so, I think after a certain amount of time, the "build-up" just gets reabsorbed into the body and the process starts all over again.
The real key to a hands-free (mental) ejaculation in my experience is the mind. You really have to be tuned into your body. From what you're describing, it sounds like you are. You're aware of the intricate feelings down there and you've been experimenting quite a bit. That's how I learned - through a lot of trial and error, but trying not getting frustrated along the way.
I wish there was a "sure fire" way of describing how to achieve this that's reproducible for every guy, but I don't think it works that way, every guy is different. For me, it was a combination of being extremely horny (but not overly horny, i.e. finding my peak) and then laying in bed naked in the quiet darkness with my eyes closed and muscles relaxed (watching some porn beforehand), then slipping into a very intense mental fantasy where it feels as though the fantasy is happening to me for real (requires a lot of focus which takes practice). Sometimes, laying down in places in your home you don't usually masturbate in can help as it can add to the arousal. If you don't usually vocalize while masturbating, it can help to add that. Anything that can help make your fantasy as real as possible and push you over the edge can help.
Above all, enjoy the journey, because really, that's the most enjoyable part. Funny enough, once you've achieved a hands-free (mental) climax, as much of an achievement as it is, I think you will find that all of the practice leading up to it was more satisfying and fun
Enjoy the journey!
There are a couple more videos of me having almost hands-free climaxes on my GayTube profile
. It might give you some more ideas
Originally Posted by DickCheney
I've been trying to accomplish this for the past two years.
I've come close (no pun intended) on a few occasions. I've gotten a lot of sputtering near hits but never a full ejaculation.
My findings so far:
Don't wait a week to try it. Two days after my last wanking seems to be my peak, after that it goes down hill; although I am going to try waiting for a month after tonight just to be sure.
Kegels flexing helps but it can only get you so far. The best method I've found is squeeze the muscle lightly and hold it. It takes a while, especially if you don't have porn in front of you, but it does slowly build. Try to focus on the muscles on top and directly below the penis and especially the head. You should feel a tingling 'in and out' sensation at the tip as you relax.
I think a big obstacle to this is the psychological barrier to jizzing in your pants which probably comes from potty training but I'm no expert in these fields. I can only guess.
So what's your secret, Josh?!? Let me in on it, man. Don't hold out.