When I was single, I lived in New York City. STD clinics (which are now almost useless due to budget cuts) did not test for herpes. (Now they do not test for anything.) Anytime I asked private doctors to perform a screening for herpes, they would ask me when my last outbreak was. Um. . . Hello? Never had one, thus the testing. I was frequently told that testing could only be done if I had a blister. This is inaccurate information. Testing done at the site of an ongoing outbreak is...

I saw this question posed in the forums. I wanted to answer, but my answer veers too far off-topic, so I started this blog. Feel free to share your experiences, if you like.

I once saw my friend K pop out of some boxers. He was mostly flaccid, I think, but HUGE. It had a really pretty shape. Because he also had my preferred body type, and he was an awesome friend, I never got the image out of my mind. He died without ever becoming single again, but had he ever left his horrid,...