Coming out
Posted 04-24-2012 at 03:14 PM by Catharsis
I had come out to my three best friends, today. I was going to tell them over lunch tomorrow, but I was already with two of them today. I was so excited to tell them that I could hardly keep it in, so I wanted to leave them hanging by saying that I had something important to tell them but they I wasn't going to say it without telling the third one with them.
Little did I expect that, as we were walking out to our next classes, we ran into the third one in the parking lot. So they told me that now that we were all together, I should tell them this big important thing.
So I laughed and said this isn't the place, and they were trying to guess what was going to happen... did I find a place to live on campus, am I transferring schools, am I going to move... nope! So they ask me, and even though I knew it was the wrong place and the wrong time (we were rushing to our next class), I was way too excited to hold it in for another day. And so I took a deep breath and I said, very simply...
"I'm gay."
In the middle of the parking lot.
There was a moment of silence and one of them couldn't believe it. Another one hugged me and the last one said she was so happy for me.
It was bad timing because we had to get to our next class, but they really want to talk about it more tomorrow.
I'm so glad I took my first step today and that my friends are so awesome. I'm in such a good mood right now. :)
Little did I expect that, as we were walking out to our next classes, we ran into the third one in the parking lot. So they told me that now that we were all together, I should tell them this big important thing.
So I laughed and said this isn't the place, and they were trying to guess what was going to happen... did I find a place to live on campus, am I transferring schools, am I going to move... nope! So they ask me, and even though I knew it was the wrong place and the wrong time (we were rushing to our next class), I was way too excited to hold it in for another day. And so I took a deep breath and I said, very simply...
"I'm gay."
In the middle of the parking lot.
There was a moment of silence and one of them couldn't believe it. Another one hugged me and the last one said she was so happy for me.
It was bad timing because we had to get to our next class, but they really want to talk about it more tomorrow.
I'm so glad I took my first step today and that my friends are so awesome. I'm in such a good mood right now. :)
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That's what best friends are for
It feels good, doesn't it?
Congrats!!Posted 04-24-2012 at 04:28 PM by Countryguy63
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congratulations! i'm glad to hear you were excited to talk with them about this. it makes a huge difference to know that coming out will be received positively. :)
it's great how that just happened without a huge production, in the middle of the parking lot.. ha ha. sometimes we hype things up so much, it's really cool to see you had a totally organic experience. here's hoping that the rest of your journey is as fulfilling!Posted 04-24-2012 at 04:36 PM by joshnosh -
Well they were all girls and already had a gay friend come out to them, so I was ready to tell them. The only reason I waited so long was to make sure that I was ready and sure of myself. And, I am. I'm still young but I'm happy to know that I'm discovering more and more of myself. And now the three most important people to me (at this point and time) know who I am, too.
Coming out to my guy friends and my family... that will be tricky, and I imagine more drama to sprout from them. But I don't have to hide myself from absolutely everyone now and that alone makes me happier.Posted 04-24-2012 at 04:41 PM by Catharsis -
Aww. :P All the best Caths. :)Posted 04-24-2012 at 05:19 PM by Joll -
it is always a relief to be able to share with people you trust.Posted 04-24-2012 at 05:36 PM by spoon - Knuckle knocks. Ton of bricks off your back? Priceless! Rock on!Posted 04-24-2012 at 05:39 PM by D_Cal_Estenic
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Its always nice to discover that your friends are so open and accepting to you and very good of you taking a step. If you'd like to talk to me more about things feel free to PM me.Posted 04-24-2012 at 06:00 PM by 7inchbliss -
I was reading this thinking, aww good for whoever wrote this... then i read that it was YOU!
bahahahaha, congratz cath good for you =)Posted 04-24-2012 at 06:06 PM by curiousJ -
Congrats Cath, I'm so happy for you. It's a great feeling to share it with people that you care about and those that care about you...no more secrets or shame of any kind. You've come a long way, buddy :)Posted 04-24-2012 at 07:24 PM by CobraLover -
When your 3 best friends are girls, you already know you are gay!
kidding aside, GL manPosted 04-24-2012 at 07:24 PM by bonerrific 
- haha, like I said, telling the guys is going to be a completely different story (most likely - but I hope not). but thanks anyway. :)Posted 04-24-2012 at 08:16 PM by Catharsis
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So when I come up, they won't be surprised now?
Glad you're happy!!Posted 04-24-2012 at 08:59 PM by ladristo - I'm proud of you too.Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:39 AM by D_FartusAurelius
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Congrat's Cath be who you are.Posted 04-26-2012 at 07:54 AM by OhWiseOne -
Cath, my dude, that's good news. Mega congrats, I know the feeling of finally being able to reveal yourself to friends and being accepted. I still remember how great it felt telling my brother and one of my best boys, how accepting they were, despite being shocked.
I will say, though, that through this journey, you may or may not lose some friends in the process. In that process, though,you'll uncover who your true friends really are, so no need to stress out about them. They're just negative leafs being revealed. This whole journey is for you to take, so definitely take it in your own pace and there's nothing to be ashamed about.
Most of my best friends are guys and I know how it is to be able to be who you are and still be one of the guys. I'm very fortunate all my guy friends are open minded and extremely supportive.
Best wishes and great luck with this journey, my friend.Posted 04-26-2012 at 08:13 AM by D_22 - Good for you Tharsis!
I cant believe I missed this!
Coming out to my female friends was FAR easier than my male friends. Though over time it became old hat. Lie others have expressed, i hope yoou nothing but well wishes in this endeavor. If people can't accept you, then they can fuck off. Be careful of those who seem to accept at first then turn.
Your sibs and parents will be the hardest.
Keep us posted, and, I am so damn proud of you*hugs cath and ruffles his hair*Posted 04-29-2012 at 09:43 PM by B_Nicodemous -
I wish my best friend (male) had taken it like that. Now he won't communicate. So sad.Posted 11-27-2012 at 06:14 PM by BigInBellevue - Hey there, I'm so sad to hear that. But I guess these things happen - and more often than it should.Quote:Originally Posted by BigInBellevue
I wish my best friend (male) had taken it like that. Now he won't communicate. So sad.
I've been lucky. Very lucky. At this point, all of my friends have been great about it and my family (at least my parents and siblings) accept me for being gay. My dad is probably the least supportive, but he has still come to accept that I'm gay and he still loves me.
Of course, I realize that not every situation works out as well as it has for me. But if he isn't comfortable with the fact that you're gay, then maybe he's not the best friend for you, after all.
I think of it like this... Those that still love you, mean that they love you for who you truly are. Those that want nothing to do with you simply because you're gay don't love you for who you are, and these people are going to be toxic in your life. It might be better, after all, that he isn't involved.
That could be another way of looking at it. Thanks for posting.Posted 11-28-2012 at 01:21 AM by Catharsis
