Is it wrong for me to be jealous?
Posted 10-01-2011 at 02:19 PM by Princecharm
I was in class a couple days ago, and I had just gotten out of class so I went to the student lounge and was checking my facebook. My mom had a status update that said "So im going to be a grandma,blah,blah, god has a reason for everything". My jaw dropped and I called my mom. My younger sister (she's a year younger than me) was pregnent she had found out that day because my mom found the bill from my sisters obgyn. Before my sister told anyone my mom had updated her status (she's kind of a bitch. My sister and I call her satan). I was pissed at first because:
1) Im the oldest I should do everything first
2)My sister was pregnant and she didnt tell me
3)I was jealous because I love kids and I want to have them as soon as possible with my girlfriend (I would like to be married, and to have enough money saved up)
4) Im going to have to wait at least 5 years to have kids (so my girlfriend and I are both out of school
Im happy for my sister, And im going to be the best damn uncle that kid has, but is it wrong that I am jealous?
1) Im the oldest I should do everything first
2)My sister was pregnant and she didnt tell me
3)I was jealous because I love kids and I want to have them as soon as possible with my girlfriend (I would like to be married, and to have enough money saved up)
4) Im going to have to wait at least 5 years to have kids (so my girlfriend and I are both out of school
Im happy for my sister, And im going to be the best damn uncle that kid has, but is it wrong that I am jealous?
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aaaaahhhhhhhh, the family dynamics. never easy. being the oldest isn't the smartest reason to have a child before your ready-i.e. out of school, etc.
but, your sister didn't tell anyone first. mom found bill and went ahead and posted. you don't know if your sister was trying to get pregnant or not. or, if she is happy about it.
the news was a surprise. your mom should not have just posted. so, jelousy for whatever the reasons are--is a bit early.Posted 10-01-2011 at 03:08 PM by spoon
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This confirms my theory....facebook is the devil.Posted 10-01-2011 at 03:49 PM by CrookedHalo - The oldest doesn't always get to be first in life. That's just life and it happens.
You are jealous b/c you wanted to have kids first? What difference does first or last matter with children? Is there a pecking order in your family? (not in mine so this is an honest ?)
I think if you take a harder look at the matter, you may not even be jealous.
You may be hurt, because of how everyone found out of the pregnancy (including you).
You may be hurting b/c as much as you want children, you know you are being wise in waiting until you are ready for them. (For this you can find joy and take it easy on yourself.)
You may be hurt b/c your sister did not confide in you. We all have secrets, all of us, even from our siblings.
A new baby will soon join your family. Be happy that you will be able to provide some influence in this child's life. It seems to me you have a very level head on your shoulders and can be a terrific uncle, and fine role model.
Take it easy on yourself... take it easy on your sister.
I 100% agree with spoon's post. Especially the last line.Posted 10-01-2011 at 04:22 PM by D_Kitten_Kaboodle - Naw man it all good No need for sibling rivalry Facebook ruins relationships sometimes. I know I'm not really helping sorryPosted 10-02-2011 at 02:21 AM by D_Shia LePoof
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The actions of others we cannot control. I have concluded that in my 1/2 century of life. We can though control our reaction and perception. What YOU do next after an emotional experience determines the outcome for you.
If your moms a bitch, can she do anything that wouldnt validate it?
You seem to have future plans laid out and thats great, is there a plan b and c etc? Not to be anxious about it but just aware that things can happen.
I can tell that you are going to be a great uncle. I'm the one that my nephews call the "crazy one" cause at 50 I still play with their toys or know at least a dozen pokemon monsters, and can beat them at Wii bowling! LOL.
Anyway, I agree facebook can be very provocative. I no longer am my sons friend cause I kept telling him to clean up what he posted, I was sadly befriended.
. Which was fine with me less stress (he wanted me to be his friend btw). When his emotions are up I remind him still to watch how he post it! A dad is still a dad even for a 21 yr old you know.
I hope I have been a help in at least giving you some insight.
Don't worry be happy!
Posted 10-26-2011 at 03:24 PM by Frnkd213
