Gym Double K.O.
Posted 07-08-2012 at 01:00 PM by Smallprivate
So I was at the gym working out this morning and a big muscled dude walked up pretty close and started doing some leg lunges in my immediate area. I've got an ok build but nowhere close to his size and definition- he was twice my size, definite bodybuilder. Just funny how intimidated I felt. Since I was on a machine and he was so close, I felt forced to look at his big muscled fame in a tank top and tight gym short. He didnt acknowledge me at all, but it was wild how instantly with every lunge he did, my workout seemed pointless, and my body and whole self image just seemed like crap, ha. Reminded me of the big dick vs small dick dynamic, but we we're clothed. I guess if I were hung I could of thought "well, least my dick is bigger", but I'm not. What really put the "nail in the coffin" is when he turned around and lunged back in my direction... It was like he had an orange bouncing around down there. He had body and dick, It was like a double KO, ha. Hard to get back up after seeing all that. Ha, When I came to, i guess someone must have propped me up on a stationary bike... It's amazes me how some guys have so much going for them physically. I can only imagine, but what does that feel like or is it no big deal?
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Generally guys who are well-built tend to have a boost of confidence, which to be fair, is somewhat deserved. Getting a body like that takes hard work, commitment and dedication - for that, I guess, there's reason to feel proud about one's self.
But then, they are in the gym, they're clearly comfortable in this environment. Just because you felt inadequate against him here doesn't mean that he wouldn't feel inadequate in other circumstances - he might be intellectually stupid, he might be socially awkward, for all you know he could be a virgin; a man of God; or completely asexual.
I hate to give advice out to people without knowing them or what they want out of life but seriously, one of the greatest and most freeing things I ever learned was that there is absolutely no positive reason to compare yourself to anyone.
People do it all the time - "I was in the same classes, got better grades and they earn $20K more a year than me...", "that guy is a complete asshole and yet he has this incredibly intelligent, beautiful wife..."
You're not anyone else but yourself. Trying to run your life with any other mentality is detrimental to any goal or aim you'd ever aspire to.
[/TonyRobbinsmode]Posted 07-08-2012 at 06:02 PM by ThatFellaUK
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To answer your question, it feels rather nice as long as it gets you somewhere... the weeks where im not fucking, trust me i feel just as scrawny and small cocked as the next guy...
as far as ur own self image.. no one should make you feel less adequate, unless of course you're into that...keep working out and i'm sure u'll inspire the same feelings you're experiencing . good luckPosted 07-08-2012 at 11:34 PM by ManTubeula - Seriously don't let anyone make you feel inadequate. You need to look at it like this, that guy donated THOUSANDS of hours (and think high thousands, depending on age) not only in the gym but in the kitchen to look like that. Most bodybuilders actually have a decent case of BDD, so they aren't as arrogant as one would think. Literally the nicest guys I have ever met were near 300 lbs and very lean, they would barely squeeze your hand during a shake-nothing to prove.Posted 07-09-2012 at 12:36 AM by Jerk_Douglas
- [QUOTE=ThatFellaUK;bt75598]Generally guys who are well-built tend to have a boost of confidence, which to be fair, is somewhat deserved. Getting a body like that takes hard work, commitment and dedication - for that, I guess, there's reason to feel proud about one's self.
But then, they are in the gym, they're clearly comfortable in this environment. Just because you felt inadequate against him here doesn't mean that he wouldn't feel inadequate in other circumstances - he might be intellectually stupid, he might be socially awkward, for all you know he could be a virgin; a man of God; or completely asexual.
I hate to give advice out to people without knowing them or what they want out of life but seriously, one of the greatest and most freeing things I ever learned was that there is absolutely no positive reason to compare yourself to anyone.
People do it all the time - "I was in the same classes, got better grades and they earn $20K more a year than me...", "that guy is a complete asshole and yet he has this incredibly intelligent, beautiful wife..."
You're not anyone else but yourself. Trying to run your life with any other mentality is detrimental to any goal or aim you'd ever aspire to.
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Very well put, not a thing to add after this one. Just be the best you you can be, sounds all love in but it is reality.Posted 07-09-2012 at 12:54 AM by D_trdcvfj -
We are our own worst enemies in terms of self assurance and self confidence. I would be feeling exactly the same way as you did in the same situation.
We have to learn to tell ourselves that we are a lot better than we think we are!Posted 07-09-2012 at 10:17 AM by ggsitc 
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Have you ever considered that that guy was trying to get with you? (A dude did a similar thing with me and he was trying to get me to notice him. (I worked out without my glasses. I was blind as a bat.))Posted 07-09-2012 at 07:17 PM by invisibleman -
i have the same feel as you man. but after reading these responses its given me some what a better view on my self image. thanks.Posted 07-10-2012 at 08:34 AM by ineeduiwantu
