I am really glad you asked this. Between the willing women and the men who desire this kind of stimulation there are too few conversations about this. I think a lot of men have a fear that even trying this type of play is a homoerotic act. That somehow by allowing a woman to explore the erogenous zones will somehow make them seem effeminate. Not to mention, let's be honest, most men are doing basic maintenance with regard to how presentable our rears are for sex play. Considering these things might help a woman that is wanting to avoid a conditioned response.
To be sure, men have a prostate, and it is my belief that the vast majority of us will never even come close to realizing how powerfully erotic, and substantially pleasurable it is. To say "it's not for me" only hold's water for me if a man hasn't tried it, although I do and always will respect a person's right to choose what they are comfortable with being performed on or by someone else. Oh and there are some that subscribe to the belief of
health benefits from prostate massage. I count myself among those skeptical, but only so far as that I haven't seen enough evidence yet to convince me. It is something that at the very least causes men to stop being so hyper phallic focused, which I imagine could be a great relief to their partners.
Also, I think their are those that have seen the male prostate stimulated orgasm. Witnessing the intensity can offer a glimpse in to what potential one has that they were unaware of, but doesn't do much to help the person (or couple) understand how difficult it is for a large part of the population to achieve the mindset necessary for that end. Many just give up when they are faced with that reality. I couldn't begin to estimate how many have purchased a male g-spot toy with their lover, with all the glory ahead of them only to abandon it to the "porn drawer" to die with the cheap vibrators and other ill fated sex toys purchased on impulse. It's a shame because it is like holding a rough pink diamond in one's hand and tossing it among other agates as an unpolished bloodstone. Yes, I think that much of the pursuit of male anal stimulation. It is a "shoe on the other foot" deal anyway, as many women struggle for their first orgasm, and there are a few adult women still struggling.
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I tease my guy friends all the time about this, but I half hope they take something from it. They all know I have some "kinks", and are smart enough not to push the issue. But when we are having fun with each other one of them is sure to make some comment about how my wife is going to violate my ass. That's my in, so to speak, and I pull the trigger every time. So much that it has become a part of our daily routine. If we are hazing a new guy out in the field they'll warn him not to let me around their wife or they'll be getting a finger in the butt next time they're fucking.
Ok, I have a challenge to all men that read that last paragraph. If reading it made you at all uncomfortable, consider the possibility that I am crass. Or maybe, and I'm just tossing it out there for consideration, do with it as you will, don't shoot the messenger type of suggestion. Maybe you have a sexual hang up, and it is holding you back sexually. Not that this is a necessary activity, but the fact that a woman feels the need to carefully ask us how comfortable we are with our own sexual function says less about how special she is for caring (which you certainly are, RA158) and more about a reputation we've earned as a gender in our present culture. Times are shifting, and gender roles are being blurred. I'd hate to see men of our century go down in history as being sexually repressed in the age of information.
Sorry to get all essay on your ass.
See what I did there?
