Anyone know of any home products to put on your clit to help with orgasm?

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I have been looking on Amazon for reviews on KY intense, his and hers gel etc. and the general reviews are that all of the products are so so. For a few it works but for most it seems to be a waste of money. I even came across where someone mentioned for the woman using Vicks Vapor Rub on her clit and that helped a lot. I'm afraid to try that though, but does anyone on here have any home products that they use that can help? I mean anything that is not used specifically for the clit, just that you thought you would try it and it worked.

I'm needing a little help in the orgasm department. I did find a nice surprise at walmart today and found a Trojan Vibrations box that has a one time use cock ring with a tiny vibrator in it. I cannot wait to use it, but I would like to find some kind of cream/gel/lube that would really work for me. I can cum no problem on my own, but when me and my hubby are fucking it's hard for me to cum.
 
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I have been looking on Amazon for reviews on KY intense, his and hers gel etc. and the general reviews are that all of the products are so so. For a few it works but for most it seems to be a waste of money. I even came across where someone mentioned for the woman using Vicks Vapor Rub on her clit and that helped a lot. I'm afraid to try that though, but does anyone on here have any home products that they use that can help? I mean anything that is not used specifically for the clit, just that you thought you would try it and it worked.

I'm needing a little help in the orgasm department. I did find a nice surprise at walmart today and found a Trojan Vibrations box that has a one time use cock ring with a tiny vibrator in it. I cannot wait to use it, but I would like to find some kind of cream/gel/lube that would really work for me. I can cum no problem on my own, but when me and my hubby are fucking it's hard for me to cum.

dont waste your time with the Trojan thing, I will send you a link for some things that you can buy on Amazon that work great
 

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My dh is not very into eating or licking me. I don't know why. I even told him I know he doesn't enjoy it and he said why did I think that? Well uh you hardly ever do it and when you do it's like your going down and slobbering everywhere for a few seconds then stop. That's why. I am a clean person and bathe before if I know we are going to have sex, I even trim and sometimes shave completely (which he likes), but still no help there. I tell him he's selfish because I enjoy going down on him until he cums but none for me, so that's why I need something else.
 
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I'm a huge fan of Califonia Exotics Impulse series, which includes a series of bullets that can be used in a variety of devices, including bullet holding cockrings.

For example, these

Impulse Couples Enhancer California Exotic Novelties

Amazon.com: California Exotics Impulse 3 Way Micro Arouser: Health & Personal Care

Or this wearable one for sex or doing housework (wear under underwear) :wink:

Amazon.com: California Exotics Impulse Multi-Function Wearable Micro Butterfly: Health & Personal Care

Amazon.com: California Exotics Impulse 5 Hypersonic Multi-Function Wearable Bunny Stimulator: Health & Personal Care

The reason I'm a fan are the controls. They have great patterns and intensity levels. Also, the bullet controls are interchangeable with the toys that plug into them, so if you like the vibrator part that came with one set, but the controls that came with another, plug them up together and it works! Genius!

I've never actually used it during sex, just for playing on my own, but if you want a toy, the best toy brand I've ever found is California Exotics. They have a lot of toys in the Impulse series, 70+ I believe.
 
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My dh is not very into eating or licking me. I don't know why. I even told him I know he doesn't enjoy it and he said why did I think that? Well uh you hardly ever do it and when you do it's like your going down and slobbering everywhere for a few seconds then stop. That's why. I am a clean person and bathe before if I know we are going to have sex, I even trim and sometimes shave completely (which he likes), but still no help there.

This is a really good one, do what cha gotta do girl

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Price: $16.90 - $27.24


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I have been looking on Amazon for reviews on KY intense, his and hers gel etc. and the general reviews are that all of the products are so so. For a few it works but for most it seems to be a waste of money. I even came across where someone mentioned for the woman using Vicks Vapor Rub on her clit and that helped a lot. I'm afraid to try that though, but does anyone on here have any home products that they use that can help? I mean anything that is not used specifically for the clit, just that you thought you would try it and it worked.

I'm needing a little help in the orgasm department. I did find a nice surprise at walmart today and found a Trojan Vibrations box that has a one time use cock ring with a tiny vibrator in it. I cannot wait to use it, but I would like to find some kind of cream/gel/lube that would really work for me. I can cum no problem on my own, but when me and my hubby are fucking it's hard for me to cum.


Many women have a hard time cumming with "just fucking," so you're not alone there.

And look at all the exploration fun you can have trying different things! The trick is recruiting dh into the frame of mind of exploring with you. Hopefully, he's not prudish, and hopefully he has an adventurous spirit.

It's all in how you present the big adventure -- and it looks like you're on the right path with trying a couple of new things.

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As far as tingly creams, there are several gels sold in supermarkets. I haven't tried too many kinds, so I can't advise you as to a name or brand. Tingle-creams were an interesting sensation, but I wouldn't say that they made me orgasm more rapidly/easily.

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My best recommendation would be vaginal exercises (see this thread) -- the benefit is that you have more blood and nerve flow to the area, which means that arousal is faster and orgasms are bigger.
 

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Olivia, you are beautiful.

But that wasn't the question...

For synthetic products you could try Durex Play lube / creams. I tried them before, they weren't bad but the woman said she liked it. It burns a bit and I guess in a way could be similar to using Vics in that its a hot, minty sensation.

Sex-wise:

Does your husband rub your clit while fucking you? That might help.

Also a position to try is:

You bend over and he enters you doggy style
You lay down flat on your stomach, husband stays inside you
Husband fucks you like that

He could also play with your tits and/or clit at the same time if he is dextrous.
 
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He does not play with my clit much for some reason, and once he did try to find it by rubbing my pussy but for some reason I could not feel it. WTF!!! I can find it fine on my own but I don't know if I have this mental block because the whole time he is rubbing or licking my pussy I'm worrying that he expects me to cum right away and I don't. I just need to talk this all out with him but I guess I'm afraid he will think it's his fault.

INCOCKNITO - thanks for the compliment:)! I do love doggy style it's my favorite position and I get close to cumming but it's his fave also and it is the only position that makes him cum quick. Sometimes he does try and rub my clit while in the missionary position but he only does it for a few seconds then quits.

Thanks for the suggestion on the Durex lubes, I will check it out.
 

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A couple of suggestions...

1) My wife swears by this product:

Amazon.com: Zestra Feminine Arousal Fluid 0.8ML/0.75MG Foil Packets - 9 Each: Health & Personal Care

You can get that from Walgreen's too.

2) This is going to strike a few wrong chords here, but just for grins my wife tried some cialis once and, well, let me put it this way: On average, my wife has nine orgasms at least. With the cialis, she had one. One orgasm that lasted about 30 minutes. I don't recommend it to anyone at all (my way of covering my ass), but if you do try it, try 1/4 of the usual dosage.

Your mileage may vary, but this is from my wife's perspective.
 

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Missionary is a hard position to rub the clit in because of the angle and stress that is put on the man's hand / wrist. Although it's easier if the woman puts her legs on or over the man's shoulders.

Probably the biggest barrier to your orgasm would be you worrying about whether your husband is enjoying it or satisfied etc.

In order to orgasm you need to be thoughtless and just enjoying the sensations.

The position I mentioned isn't actually doggy style, doggy style is just a way to lead into the position. But laying down flat on your stomach starting from the doggy style position is great. More intense than doggy style and it allows for deep penetration. Maybe the deepest of all positions.

Although from what you've said I don't think depth stimulates you as much as clitoral stimulation. But it is something to try.

The main thing for both you and your husband is to have the right mind for sex. Because you obviously have the body for it :wink:

You should both be willing to please each other and try different things. Perhaps reading up online would help. Perhaps reading together.

About eating you out: your husband could try switching between up and down motions and circular motions (or just stick to whichever you prefer). If he gets tired he should use his neck muscles to move his tongue around.

But anyway...I don't want to be telling you how to have sex! As long as you are both willing to please each other you will eventually find what you are looking for sexually.

You would have found it already but it appears that one or both of you are a little hesitant or reserved. Once those barriers are down you will be free to enjoy sex the way it was meant to be.
 

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Vicks on your clit???!! OMG! Don't do it!! Spend money on a toy that you can both enjoy. It will be money well spent and might open up your communication. Maybe the vibrating cock rings or the we-vibe. Best wishes!!
 

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Vicks on your clit???!! OMG! Don't do it!! Spend money on a toy that you can both enjoy. It will be money well spent and might open up your communication. Maybe the vibrating cock rings or the we-vibe. Best wishes!!

I own a we-vibe and it is larger than the photo seemed to indicate when I purchased it online. It doesn't work as a couples sex toy with a man who has a girthy penis. I do not recommend it if your partner is large! It actually hurt his penis and it wasn't comfortable for me either. The concept is that his penis is supposed to rock it back and forth against your clitoris, but there was NO ROOM for any "rocking" to occur!

Besides, the vibrations are not very strong at all, nor are there any patterns, which makes it really boring as a toy to use all by myself. As a vibration toy, it doesn't hold a candle to the California Exotics Impulse series of toys, which cost about 25%-33% as much as the We-Vibe.

Trust me on this. I own one and I never use it. You can have mine if you want it!
 
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