Care to rationalize why I am not allowed to be offended by unwelcome sexual advances? I'm on the edge of my seat waiting to hear this one. Just because you're cool it does not mean everyone in the world is required to as well. Sheesh.
Truthfully, this
post made it seem as if your reaction would be quite an unpleasant one, violent even.
And I'm still not sure in what context this question is being asked. Has the person made it blatantly clear that they've no attraction to the person proposing the idea? Is simply knowing that the potential trick is the opposite sexual orientation enough to warrant a genuinely flagrant negative reaction? People
are curious beings, and it's only natural that
many would want to experience certain things, despite identifying as one orientation.
To have to reject a person more than once, sexual orientation/gender aside, is more than just reason to be chafed.
Mind you, like invisibleman, I've no attraction whatsoever to a male once I know they're straight.
In any case, the issue here isn't whether or not the guy is straight. In this situation, we are told to assume that he is indeed straight. And by "straight", I'm assuming that the OP meant that he does not generally get blown by men. Apparently I am wrong in believing that a man, who calls himself straight, does not have sex with other men. This is truly an eye opening experience for me to see how many people disagree with me on that.
Your problem is that you've made the concept of "straight" fall under such a suffocatingly small template. Sexual experiences are not synonymous with sexual orientation. You can have had hetero/homo sexual experiences, as well as enjoy the physical pleasure derived from being with a wo/man, but continue to be entirely homo/hetero.
But I have a hunch that the OP is using the term "straight" to mean that he has expressed no interest in receiving oral sex from men. If that's not what he meant, then I don't think there would be any issue here, and he never would have asked for advice in the first place.
I don't think straight men routinely explicitly state their lack of interest in receiving oral sex from men. Especially not every time they're introduced to a new group of people.
There's a pivotal difference between "I'm straight", and "I'm not attracted to you". Granted, the first
should be enough to ward off undesirables, but it isn't as there can be quite a bit of flexibility. If gay men want to try their luck, so be it.
Also, I'm sick of being referred to as a homophobe because I don't want to have sex with men, nor be harassed to do so.
I don't think you're a homophobe, but I do think you're quite close-minded when it comes to human sexuality. You're seeing things entirely too black and white. Anyway, we can simply agree to disagree when it comes to these things.
Some people are trying to escalate and imply that I would get violent. I never said that so give it up. It seriously might end a friendship though.
That was the impression I got, you're right. I apologise for assuming that, and ending a friendship due to awkward, unwelcome sexual advances I think is fair enough.