Bondage torture and rape fantasies

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  1. MrJimSir

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    I get a tremendous thrill from watching gay bondage torture porn videos and simulated rape scenes. I like watching hot guys get their clothes ripped off, and I really like watching their nuts get smacked when they can't protect them. I have attached some stills from Dream Boy Bondage, BoyNapped, and Bound Gods as examples.

    But when I get lucky in real life I want to kiss, cuddle, and generally make love in all the normal ways. I'm not competitive and don't want to dominate anyone.

    So what does this say about me?
     

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    I enjoy it also. It's a huge turn on for me, but it has to be if both are into it. There's guys who enjoy the act of being humiliated and treated like crap, and it seems like they're in pain and hate it during the act, but once the session ends, they have a huge smile on their face. It's not very often I can find people into these types of acts, I was recently with someone for a very short time he loved me dominating him, slapping him around, gagging him, etc. We were hoping to start doing water sports but we never got to it.

    But person I'm with no, we've yet to really discuss much of this. He knows I'm into it, but as to if he'd be willing to try it, we'll see. He's never done stuff like this and says he's open minded. But what may be really fun is that thus far we've been wrestling and "fighting" each other and while he's stronger and over powers me, it's a constant back and forth and struggle with us and it's gonna be a lot of damn fun when we go to the next level, heh.
     
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    Of course anything like that would have to be consentual. And it's interesting that you two have been wrestling but haven't gone further.
     
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    We're just not rushing.
     
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    Fantasy and reality rarely meet well. Much of fantasy is the "forbidden fruit" aspect--the naughty, I would never do that in real life thing. This is why many times when people act on their deepest darkest fantasies, it falls flat. Congratulations, you are a completely normal human. :)
     
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    BDSM should be very fun--some people just want to keep it as fantasy and that is fine, but there are plenty of us who live our fantasies out. I know I have participated in a number of mine. The key to doing that is to be open to the experience and where it leads.

    I know one guy that gets his fantasies so scripted in his head that it is impossible to please him. He has pissed off a number of really good players in our community, so does not have much chance any more. He pisses off guys by either giving too much direction on how the scene should go or by getting into a scene and then all the sudden calling it off because it is not meeting his expectations.

    If you are going to play this way, find good mentors, teachers, and partners. You can learn a lot from internet research, but hands on is still necessary.
     
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    Interesting and helpful! Thanks.
     
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    Such a hot thing, as long as it's consentual. I recently hooked up with a MM couple with the knowledge that it was a rape fantasy. We made out for a while before they "turned on me". Tied my hands behind my back and took turns raping my holes. I came a huge load without even touching my cock.
     
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    Hot stuff, Tulsa. You were lucky to find that.
     
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    Perhaps you haven't figured out yet how to integrate kinkiness with sweetness (with the latter being the greater priority).
     
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    Those are my priorities which is why I have only seriously experimented with my kinky interests with 1 guy so far. The others I haven't trusted sufficiently.