Comfort Level Showing Dick to Other Men?

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  1. MuscleJockLA

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    Hey there guys,

    I was wondering, how many of us here and how many men that you know are not afraid to show off their dicks to other men? Sexual orientation should NOT be a factor, we are simply speaking one man showing dick to another man or men.

    I grew up very comfortable showering and swimming etc with other men but I never once can remember being in an erotic or aroused state with another man. That being said I love to be nude with other men whether it be at the gym in the gang shower, the sauna or steam room, a nude beach/resort, etc. I check out the other men and compare etc bodies and dicks. Rarely though have I met many men, straight or gay, that are open enough with their bodies to speak, compare, freely show what they have, maybe 7 men over the last 12 years.

    I guess what I am saying would you show someone, totally apart from attraction and sexual intention, your dick in an open way for a period of time? Would you speak to the person about it? Where do you draw the line?

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  2. D_that's a tall order

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    I am not inhibitted about gang showers, nude beaches, etc., and have a bit of an exhibitionist streak. I am married now, though, so my audience is rather exclusive.

    The thought of just "hanging out" with someone is an interesting idea. I wonder if I would be able to prevent myself from letting it go beyond something casual. But it is a sexy thought...for an exhibitionist.
     
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    I am more and more comfortable being naked
    in a casual situation,
    and i would guess about half of my friends are.
    I'm not one to run for a towel
    if someone passes by the bathroom door...
    and i would probably oblige if someone asked me
    to show them the money :)

    but, i do have friends who
    would never/have never been the kind to whip it out.
     
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    In years past, men nude with men was accepted, normal and expected. Showers at school, nude male swimming at the Y etc., etc. There used to be male camaraderie and fraternity. Being nude, sports, gyms. locker rooms etc., etc., were a males "rite of passage" so to speak. With, and I don't mean to offend anyone here (but probably will anyway) the feminization of men, those relationships and bonding have been lost. I think men long for that men-among-men relationship. There are no milestones or exclusive male environs left. In a way it's sad. What's wrong with being a "guy" anyway? Anyone read "Iron John"? Lot of good in there.
     
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    I'm comfortable with it. I mean, some guys are fat, some guys are hairy, some guys have moles, I have a flaccid penis going more than halfway down my thigh. Could be worse.

    Oh, and KinkGuy, most Indians were offended by some of Bly's talk of "primitive societies". He's the male Lynn Andrews.
     
  6. Pecker

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    I've never had a problem with nudity in the presence of other males.

    DON'T ANYBODY MOVE!! I just dropped my soap.
     
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    I didn't say it was gospel. And, the word "lot" implies less than 100% doesn't it? SORRY, I wasn't relating it to your specific personal perspective. In fact, had really only considered the book in broader strokes.
     
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    I don't think I care; of course, I'm not usually in a situation where I'm naked around men for a significant period of time. I guess I'm becoming comfortable because I don't really care to go from my bedroom to the bathroom buck ass naked, even if the guys are around the house. I'd just shrug. They know what a dick looks like.

    Sorry. I think I have to laugh at the notion of some "primitive" gathering of a bunch of naked guys banging on bongos or something like that. But honestly, if I got a bunch of my good guy friends around and we all got along pretty well, I wouldn't mind all of us stripping down and chillin' in a hot tub. Nothing too weird about that.
     
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    This is all good stuff.

    The situations that I refer to are more like if you are in the shower or lockerroom at the gym and someone mentions something about your dick. Would you let them or anyone else walk up and have a closer look, have a conversation, maybe let them touch it in a purely curious manner?

    What about if you answer the door in a robe and the UPS man is there and your robe falls open and he makes a remark about your dick or asks a question about it. Would you let him stand there and look at it, ask more questions, etc.?

    Please, keep adding your 2 cents.

    MuscleJockLA

    P.S. KinkGuy you have SO hit it on the head about a lot of younger men out there these days, I myself really like all male bonding environments as in your post, and they have all seemed to have gone away. No male only spas, pools, etc. Young males would be a lot less uptight if they were shown that it is OK to be naked and free in the company of brothers.
     
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    Depends on how I'm approached, you know.

    If you see it in the shower and you keep glancing at it hanging down between my legs, honestly, unless you make it grossly obvious that you're staring, I won't even notice. And I have had a couple of buds in my time who, while jerking with 'em, would make comments about my size. I like the attention and I don't really care.

    And I've had to be that guy to answer the door in a pair of boxers or in a towel if I got a delivery in the morning. I just laugh, try to hold up my towel, and sign away. If the guy notices and says I'm bulging huge or something like that, I'd simply thank him. Now if he instantly dropped on all fours and begged for me to plow him... well... dude, that isn't my thing and that would be a little much.

    Like I said, it's all in the approach. I don't mind casually discussing my size. And while I would be less likely to let some dude fondle my junk in the gym shower, if we were hanging out and having a couple of beers and he wanted to take a good look at it, I'd let him, sure.

    It'd be even more fun if the guy himself were packing; always good to know your brothers-in-arms in the cock department.
     
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    drrionelli: This IS good stuff, MuscleJockLA! I've found there to be a bit of reticence on many guys to comfortably let their goods show. When I played music in bars, it never ceased to amaze me that, even in men's rooms with multiple urinals, there was often a line because it seemed to be taboo that two (or more) men could be where their dicks were out.

    Not only that, but you were very suspiciously regarded if you walked in while another man was there and just whipped it out to take a leak. Well, hey, after a long set of music, I was going to go regardless! More than once, in consideration for those waiting, I'd announce out the door that the bathroom was a "dual" or a "triple" and that there was, thus, room for somebody else. I was often met with strange stares, to say the least.

    And, this, to me, is odd. We all have 'em, after all! :lol:
     
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    ROFL - you are too funny!!! I would have to agree, I have absolutely no problem being nude in front of males or females for that matter. Now if some random person were to walk up to me and ask to see it I am sure that I would decline, but beaches, gyms, dressing rooms, etc; don't bother me in the least bit.
     
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    Hey there

    I'm comfortable being naked with guys at the gym, in the showers, sauna etc providing the guys are comfortable with me. While I have a good muscular body and a large thick dick I'm not sure this has anything to do with how guys feel about being naked around me. I guess if they aren't comfortable I wouldn't be either - it works both ways I guess. Or am I being naive? :rolleyes:
     
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    I'm fairly open and comfortable 'showing it' to strangers in gym showers, washrooms, change rooms - but I become somewhat inhibited about it around my immediate friends and family. Never really thought about why this might be so.

    And if you see my stats in my sig, you can see that I'm not exactly muscular - just the typical hung-smooth-skinny type.
     
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    I've always been curious how guys react if another guy starts to get a hard-on in the showers/sauna/locker from looking at you (but nothing is said and certainly no contact made). How do you take that? as a compliment, part of being a guy, as a come-on, something you find inappropriate or wish didn't happen, etc??

    Does a straight guy react differently than a gay guy? As a gay guy, I tend to take it as a compliment and find it hot, as long as it doesn't lead to being stalked. And if I'm approached, I just say thank you but not interested in anything more.

    Any views?
     
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    But Bly was a scam artist!
     
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    I had an interesting experience a few years back that was totally out of the ordinary.

    I was at the YMCA and had finished my normal workout..........I had showered and returned to my locker to get dressed. There was an older gentleman next to my locker (he was in his 70s)...........he was naked, about 5'5" and pretty hung, and physically slim. I was drying my hair in front of my locker and he reaches over and grabs my dick and says, "you have a pretty big cock".........I started laughing......at the surprise/absurdity of his actions.......I then said, "yeah I like it pretty well"......and he says my wife loves my cock.........she always puts her wrist watch on it because she is amazed that my cock is bigger around than her arm. I laughed some more and said really? I said you look like you have a lot to be proud of and he said yes I do, and I am.

    We finished drying off and got dressed and went our separate ways. There was nothing sexual about it.......neither of us got hard............it was almost like a father behaving this way to a son that he was close to............even tho sons and fathers do not behave that way.

    I did not take offense at his actions because 1) he was shorter than me 2) he was almost 50 years older than me 3) I was caught off-guard and definitely was not expecting anything like that to occur. I chalked it up to pure innocence etc. When I think about it these days I still laugh about it.

    I am pretty easy going for the most part anyway with people..........but I do have my limits.............I might have behaved differently had it been someone else and the circumstances different...........I do not know.

    In general I enjoy being nude with guys........no modesty unless the other person shows a lot of modesty..........then I will respect them by showing the same amount of modesty. With some people I can see how sensitive they are about nudity and would not intrude on them in any way.
     
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    mkbassguy: I also feel comfortable being naked around other men, but most men nowadays seem to stray away and avoid showers after gym and sports, I mean if its all guys, whats there to hide.
     
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    I have been in that situation once or twice, where a guy in a group shower had an erection, and I thought, "Hey, good for him." There was, fortunately, nothing sinister about it, it just seemed as though the guy had one and that was that. I was even tempted to give myself permission to get one, but I didn't have the nerve. Sadly, we don't live in a society that knows how to talk openly about our penises, especially erections.
     
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    On the old board we had a thread somewhere about
    how things had changed as far as men being naked together
    at gyms, swimming pools and even urinals.
    It is all about privacy right now,
    and protecting those rights to privacy, etc, etc.

    Too bad, cuz i liked it when things were more out in the open....
    Did men really hate those situations so much all those years,
    that they went around changing it?
    Nude swimming and gang showers,
    and troughlike urinals are a thing of the past now,
    or becoming so.
     
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