Interesting subject about basic human need for contact from another. A story done about infants being raised in Russian orphanages, the results where that the babies that received human contact flourished and thrived, whereas the other babies that didn't, developed trust issues, had difficulties connecting with others and developed an aversion to bring touched.
Being a single gay man in a community which should allow us to embrace and celebrate our uniqueness , sadly shuns and makes those of us who don't conform to the imposed gay culture of attractiveness; muscles, tanned bodies, possession of a bona fide 10" clock with balls the size of large grade A eggs, possessing a full head of hair, as well as being eternally youthful -can leave one feeling invisible, unattractive, undesirable and erodes one's self -esteem/confidence. Having intelligence, sense of humor and the ability to carry a conversation isn't something that is noticed from across a crowded room and not being given the opportunity to be known for being the perfectly imperfect human being with the heart of gold that I am. The romantic in me is hopeful that there is someone who will see the true me and appreciate my awesomeness. Being single and celibate makes cuddling an impossibility , as there are few who would settle for cuddling without it leading to something more - and why place myself in that temptation; it would cruel to both myself and fellow cuddler. I volunteer to give back to my community, with the hopes of making new friends and possibly meet a man who shares my values and who rocks my world and I his. Patience they say is a virtue they say and someday my prince will come.
