nice to know i'm not alone on this one. i'd started to think i was somewhat freakish, lol. thanks guys.
Maybe you get turned on more buy turning other people on/making them feel good?
I know I do. I like to be touching/licking someone while they try and get me off. What usually works is mutual masturbation with her lay at the side of me.
But I've never come from a bj. But my current gf gives great head. I'm sure she could make me cum and I'll let you know when/if she does.
You could try 69 or something...
that's very much the truth for me. i LOVE turning my partner on. i absolutely get more aroused going down on my girl than from her going down on me. not because any of them have been bad at it (okay, yes, a few have), but that's just how i respond to each act on a physical and psychological level. my first and foremost concern with each lover is to make them feel as good as possible. i know i'm going to feel good...especially if they have the same ethic :tongue: ...and that i'll get off, so i want to make absolute certain that they're taken care of as well. and my last few girlfriends have been of similar mindsets, which makes for some VERY hot sex. but because of that, i can tell it's a bit frustrating for them that they can't get me off in that manner. i've made them cum with my fingers, my tongue, my cock...and yet they only make me cum from fucking. or back when the condoms i was wearing were too snug by having me stroke off for them. so it just becomes this vicious cycle of them feeling bad that they can't do that for me, and then me feeling bad that i can't do that for them when they're doing that to me.
and i've tried 69 with a couple of girls. doesn't seem to work any better. they're usually enjoying what i'm doing so much that they can't focus on sucking my cock. lol. and i'm so into eating them out that my focus is more on that than on what they're doing. yet another vicious cycle.
i have noticed in reading some of these posts a certain correlation between guys who have trouble cumming from blowjobs and guys who REALLY enjoy eating girls out. so, to the possible causality i mentioned in my first post, what do y'all think? do you enjoy eating pussy so much because you have trouble cumming from a blowjob, or do you have trouble cumming from blowjobs because you enjoy eating pussy so much? or are they two independent aspects that just happen to kind of play into each other?
Your obviously not having much luck with the person giving you a BJ.
When done properly it is as good as any form of sex.....
not true. like i said at the beginning, i've had some incredible blowjobs. and they feel GREAT. i've just never cum from them. i don't think the orgasm is the end all be all of the sexual experience. it's a wonderful climax to it, but i've had amazing sex where neither of us came.
hmm...so i guess maybe i shouldn't be so hung up on it. and i'm not really, but it does bother me sometimes when i see them getting frustrated with it. which is kind of odd, since a few girls i've gone down on who didn't cum...including some of the same girls who get frustrated when i don't cum...have gone on and on about how they can enjoy me eating them out without having an orgasm. i try to give them the same speech back and they're like, "yeah, but it's not the same...you're a GUY! you're SUPPOSED to cum!"
in summation, we're all huge hypocrites with screwed up notions of gender roles and identity.