Motlissof: Congrats on your technique which you learned as a boy. I too learned that orgasms could be controlled by kegels and cooling down when you reach the point of no return. This made jacking off as a boy somewhat divine. About ten years or so ago, Mantok Chia and Douglas Abrams wrote "The Multi-Orgasmic Man." I am rereading the book now. I may be wrong, but it is mostly Tantric Sex and Taoism. The premise of the book is that a man can have several orgasms without ejaculating and then have a total body one that rocks the body causing a tingling sensation all over a mans body. All that without ever ejaculating. For you guys with patient wives willing to spend over an hour in sex, you are in the drivers seat. As for me, my sweetie likes things fast and furious but hey, Im not complaining. I would just like to try everything once within the reasonable bounds of matrimony. If any guys out there are in similar circumstances having a wife who likes it all fast and hot, and now you have changed the scenario to sessions of about an hour, please educate me how you did it. I see this book discussed frequently by men, and consider it a must read for conniseurs. I just dont know how to change my wifes thinking, Maybe a long vacation with nothing to do but make love, exercise and eat.........?