First time sucking dick, no thanks.

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  1. sbb13

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    So, i've been watching some bi/gay porn for a while.. And it gets me really horny to watch a hot guy sucking on a dick.. So, i figured i'd try it.. met up with this kid i know, and well.. yeah, i started sucking his dick, it was cool for a little bit.. but i just got bored, and i wasnt hard while doing it like i figured i would be.. and it just wasn't fun or erotic in any way.. I feel as though i am definitely attracted to men in a physical point, looking at a guy with a 6 pack is hot as hell.. but during the act i just can't seem to stay stimulated, same with a guy sucking me.. i just don't find it erotic. Now, i haven't been with a girl in a while, (6 months?) but i've gotten off with them, for the most part.. few exceptions.. but i mean, none of it is really that erotic to me? Am i just too inexperienced? Or have i de-sensitized myself to it from porn? HEEELLLPPP
     
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    hey man, i know what you mean. I'm hard when i look at guys pics...etc. but when it comes to the actual act...i'm hard and excited at the beginning, but after seeing the dude naked and touched his cock...i start getting bored. The few times i've sucked, i'm soft and getting bored after a bit. its ok man. no one is built the same way. we all have our own attractions. just do what you are 'into' and what you like.
     
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    I'm becoming increasingly picky about the guys I give oral to. I'm not especially fond of sucking on huge dicks, and much prefer an uncut cock. The right dick (for me) is intensely erotic, the wrong dick just doesn't do a thing for me at all.

    I've met precious few cocksuckers who are up to the task to my satisfaction, so for me getting blown is entirely optional, and I've been known to decline the invite (especially if there's no fucking involved). Oral-only scenes just aren't me.
     
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    To the OP: It could just be that you're a voyeur and like to watch the act. Try blowing him next to a mirror and watching yourself doing it from the side. The difference in perspective may make a difference for you.

    As a side note, if this works, I suggest you head down to copyright the term "mirror fetish". It'll be the first time I've ever seen it used. :wink:
     
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    I understand what the OP wrote about getting bored sometimes but I'm the opposite of you. I get turned on by a beautiful cut cock. Foreskin, for me, just gets in the way, especially a long one that doesn't retract enough to expose the beautiful glans! I also get bored if the guy doesn't get or stay hard.

    I just a guy who admitted that he doesn't enjoy giving head and only prefers receiving. I'm ok with that to a point then if it doesn't go any further, why bother with him. Sex should follow, IMHO but he thinks that once he comes, it's over.
     
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    I love sucking dick. There I said it.....LOL! Anyway, seriously, I do - always have. I also like to get my dick sucked A WHOLE LOT but many guys have a hard time because of the thickness and the curve up. My partner confessed to me after we'd been dating for about 6 months that he'd never really liked receiving oral sex before because he couldn't get off - that was until he got his first BJ from me. I do a thing with my tongue that keeps him hard and gets him off. He has a hard time sucking me so it doesn't happen very often, but when it does, WOW! is the orgasm intense.

    I've got friends that say they've never liked giving or receiving or both - that for them it just isn't a turn on. I think it depends on who you're with, the level of attraction, your comfort in communicating what works for you (and vice versa), and how eager you may get to please a partner. Some guys never liked oral until they found "the one"......
     
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    First couple of times with another guy, I decided it was definitely not my thing as soon as I would cum- just the shock of new experience I think. Within a couple of days I would start getting all worked up about guys again and I would be on the hunt! A little while later I decided that I must be bi and I no longer would get turned of to men after orgasm. A couple of months after that as I became more comfortable with men, I realized I was almost exclusively gay. No problem at all any more!
     
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    Most of my experience sucking dick was with my boyfriend of 6 years. It was great for both of us. I can only do it with someone that I feel chemistry for. Otherwise, I'll gag. There has to be a strong attraction to make it good.
     
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    If you don't care for sucking dick, try kissing and licking ass:tongue::tongue:, then fucking it! And, it's not exactly difficult to find guys into sucking you off with no reciprocation either...get out there and express your inner homo:wink:
     
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    Maybe your not really gay.
     
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    The chemistry has to be right. Try it with a guy who fulfills your idea of a hottie - are you into muscles, jocks, twinks, mature, swimmer type, frat boy, etc.? Then see if it works better.
     
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    I'm with Bbucko on being increasingly picky with who I give oral to. I can get bored easily too but it has more to do with how the guy I'm blowing is responding or not responding. I like alot of vocal and physical encouragement... if he just sits/stands there not making a sound and doesn't seem to be into it, I'm not going to be either. And to throw in one more variable... if the dude's hygeine ain't the greatest, I'm outta there. I just can't enjoy it no matter how hot the guy is or how nice a dick he has.
     
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    This may seem obvious but I think you have to be attracted to the guy you're giving head to. I mean, nothing makes me go limp as much as being with someone (girl or guy) who is not hot and who isn't into having sex with me equally. After all passion plays a big part in wanting to give another person pleasure. I have to want to have sex with them, desire their dick, want to express my lust for them, and then go for it. I don't think it's cool to fein attraction. It's not pleasurable for either partner. BTW there's more to a guy than his dick, so maybe find something about him that you think is sexy.