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Girlfriend can NOT make me orgasm
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I dated a girl for almost five years that couldnt get me off, not even from sex. She would get so wet and so loose, I couldnt feel shit. That caused me to jerk off more, and compounded my problems.
I think it was part mental block, in knowing I probably wouldnt cum, and part physiological from jerking off too much and being used to my own technique.
I have since been with a LOT of women, and jerk off WAY less, and I can cum almost too soon from just about any form of attention if I want to. If you want to stay with her, stop jerking off. Period. Get your body used to her getting you off, train your cock to respond to her touch, and learn to have faith that she will make you cum so you dont worry about it. Once you stop worrying about it, everything falls into place. It took me a year, three or four girlfriends, and about 30 randoms to get back to normal, but I saw progress the whole time.
Its a viscious circle, dont get trapped in it!
I think it was part mental block, in knowing I probably wouldnt cum, and part physiological from jerking off too much and being used to my own technique.
I have since been with a LOT of women, and jerk off WAY less, and I can cum almost too soon from just about any form of attention if I want to. If you want to stay with her, stop jerking off. Period. Get your body used to her getting you off, train your cock to respond to her touch, and learn to have faith that she will make you cum so you dont worry about it. Once you stop worrying about it, everything falls into place. It took me a year, three or four girlfriends, and about 30 randoms to get back to normal, but I saw progress the whole time.
Its a viscious circle, dont get trapped in it!
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in the funny side of life, you being a male and able to get yourself off, maybe you need another man to do it to you, as it seams to work alraight by yourself... 
MAN, that's so normal.. not all women are pro in what relates to sex matters or perfect giving head. JUST openly talk to her, and explain that it isn't working, and as you said, she's able to do anything for you, so, DIALOG would be my BEST answer to your problem.
MAN, that's so normal.. not all women are pro in what relates to sex matters or perfect giving head. JUST openly talk to her, and explain that it isn't working, and as you said, she's able to do anything for you, so, DIALOG would be my BEST answer to your problem.
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Any guy who has a difficult time cumming, whether by oral, hand or vaginal, might be limiting the sexual repertoire to what are, ultimately, acts too vanilla to get you past the plateau.
Mix it up, play with roles or try porn. Try whatever works FOR YOU and your partner consensually to up the ante. Take a stroll on the wild side.
Stop thinking that alternative acts debase you or your partner. Orgasm is the ultimate expression of bliss. Don't fall into the madonna/whore trap: if you can imagine it, and she consents, go for it.
Then try her fantasy, just to be fair. Explore, grow, learn, cum...trust me on this.
Mix it up, play with roles or try porn. Try whatever works FOR YOU and your partner consensually to up the ante. Take a stroll on the wild side.
Stop thinking that alternative acts debase you or your partner. Orgasm is the ultimate expression of bliss. Don't fall into the madonna/whore trap: if you can imagine it, and she consents, go for it.
Then try her fantasy, just to be fair. Explore, grow, learn, cum...trust me on this.
