Hard time cumming

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  1. D_Elwald Harribum

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    Not sure what's going on. I am 34 and when I was younger it seemed I had to keep myself from cumming. Now I really have to work at it. I can't cum from blowjobs I really have to pound as hard and fast as I can or jack off until I'm sore. I had a physical and brought it up with my doc I have not prostate problems and everything else was normal. Just wondering if this is a normal age thing. Anyone else have this happen to them. Thanks
     
  2. bigbrick

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    If you are taking antidepressants, that can make that happen.
     
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    I'm not taking any medication but thanks for the reply.
     
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    Surely this is a normal thing which comes to everybody sooner or later. Like so many other physical functions. You are perfectly normal.
     
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    to be honest I'd rather have this problem than premature ejaculation. Just wondering if it had suddenly happened to anyone else.
     
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    I have heard anecdotally that men last longer as they age, but I always thought it was a gradual thing.

    You said, though, that you have to jack off until you're sore to cum. Perhaps you're using too much grip? Not enough lube? There are a lot of men out there who use kung fu grip when they beat off, and I can see how that could be desensitizing your dick. If that is the case, perhaps try to loosen up and enjoy a lighter, longer touch?

    I say that because I have an ex who used to practically strangle his johnson to get off. He said he'd had to do that more and more as time went on, just to get off. I figured maybe he'd started an arms race between his hand and his dick, and got him to ease down. After a few months his sensitivity started getting back to normal and I didn't feel sorry for his dick, any more.

    Having said that, though, a little increase in stamina over time is totally natural. And isn't that a good thing? :)
     
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    I think your totally normal. If you jack off too much, cut it down. If you're watching too much porn that could also play a role in changing what turns you on.
    Also smoking and drinking play a negative role. Overall lasting longer as you ger older is totally normal.

    And just like mr erratic said, it could be from your grip.
     
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    If you're circumcised the glans and left over foreskin will toughen with age and may show up as taking a longer time to ejaculate as you've described. Try lotioning that bad boy up maybe?
     
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    How often and how hard do you masturbate? I have found that this makes a big difference for me. If I jerk off 2-3 times a day I lose tons of sensitivity, and have a hard time cumming during sex. Even once a day changes it. If I take a break for a day or two I'm back to the way I was. I'm the same age...
     
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    Michaeldi23: How is your fitness routine?

    This happened to me in my late 40s - early 50s after a knee and ankle injury grounded me from running and I gained weight. I figured that the decline in sexual performance was part of getting older. When I got into cycling in 2005, I dropped 60 pounds and my cardio fitness improved dramatically, and so did my sexual performance. I'll be 60 next month and still continue to have explosive orgasms quickly and easily.