Having sex with a married man/woman

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by latinluva, Oct 27, 2009.

  1. latinluva

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    Do men find it more of a momentary thing, as opposed to women finding an emotional attachment? I have been with about five married women and it never fails, even though they were married, they always get mad when they see you with another woman. Yet I have been with at least thirty to forty men and the man never really gives a shit, well cause he's married and in love with his wife and to most men it's all about getting a nut off and continuing with the day. Can anyone shed some light on this? I just wanna know if I am the only one who sees it this way.:confused:
     
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    I don't want to put my head in the grinder and offend any of the few female posters we have here, but in my experience, women and men look at sex differently. For the most part anyways. Normally, to a man, sex can be completely divided from any other feelings of attachment. There may be momentary feelings of competition, but normally not outright jealous anger. Of course, as a straight man, I've never had a male partner, so I can't comment on that exactly except for my own encounters with women and accounts from friends. I normally didn't hook up with girls that were taken, just because it wasn't worth the inevitable drama in my opinion. But there were several occassions when I came to find out they were taken. Even though it was agreed before hand that neither of us wanted something serious, they always, ALWAYS flipped out once they saw me with someone else. I even had a girl curse me out at a local bar when she saw me, and she was there with her current bf! He wasn't close enough to hear obviously, but the fact that she was angry enough to risk spoke to how jealous she was. (or how crazy!)

    If you are going to regularly sleep with women that are taken, then you should just get used to the fact that no matter what they say, emotional connection are going to be made.
     
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    i've learned alot of lessons the hard way by sleeping with women who were married. it's can only turn ugly.no matter the situation.
    feelings get hurt one way or another.i've been on both sides of this(the one who's hurt,and been hurt) it's something you have to expect going into this.
    personally i don't recomend it. there were many of nights where i ran out of a house being chased by an angry husband who came home early(with me just wearing one sock)
    or when i went outside my house(when i had one)to find my cars(when i had those too)scratched up,and tires slashed by a married woman i was with for almost 3 yrs,and the crazy part was later that night we fucked 4 times at her house while her husband was away on a business trip.
     
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    my mother was cheated on, so it's safe to assume how i feel about it...

    unless the married man/woman is in an open relationship.
     
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    I have been a heavy business traveler since I graduated from college. I learned early on that if you are into hooking up with random travelers, some of them are going to be married or in some intense committed relationship. My attitude has always been that I don't want to know. As a single guy, that works for me. I don't want to imagine what problems that may have caused for various women that I have met at conventions.
     
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    Even then, it can get very sticky; because you just never know when feelings will arise.
    :frown1:
     
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    Yeah, I agree. :frown1:
     
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    men are less emotional...for sure...at least most.....
     
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    Well, I meant the ideal open relationship. Of course there's always circumstance.
     
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    I've had married men get emotionally attached to me. But I think it would be easier for it to happen with women due to our nature.
     
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    There's an old saying,"All woman want one man to give them everything. All men want every woman to give them one thing." I always thought that was true for alot of relationships...funny.
     
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    I've had sex with married men on several occasions and I never see it as anything more than that.....just sex. Then again I'm not your typical woman.
     
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    i find as a guy, there are a lot of women out there that don't care about relationship status of a guy, and only care about the physical aspect of it i guess. I can only speculate why some women don't seem to care that much so i wont.

    And for whatever reason they seem to be very insulted when you turn them down because of being in a relationship. So although it might all be for a physical reason... they are still affected by the rejection emotionally in some way.
     
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    when i'm single i prefer to date married/attatched women. no matter the situation its a cleaner break when i get bored or when the relationship has ran its course.
     
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    I think that's because they become angry at themselves for cheating and you're showing the standards they wish they had.

    I've had sex with a lot of married guys. It's all about getting off; little more than glorified masturbation. A few guys I've seen a few times and we get along making small talk before and after, but there's no hint of relationship in it at all.
     
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    I try to stay away from married people. Something bad always happens.
     
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    I have a married woman friend who when travelling and not getting any has used me purely for sex, dirty sex, nothing else. We are friends, not lovers. It can happen.
     
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    As I matured, dated, traveled and learned, I realized that sometimes sex, relationships and intimacy can be a guileful thing. Sometimes we become involved with someone we later find out is married and suddenly have a whole new set of issues to factor in. Admittedly, I have slept with married women, one knowing and one not knowing. In the latter it was a classic case of traveling on business, to find out after the fact in an email convo. In the case of sleeping with a married woman, it was hard issue to tackle as she was upfront about her marriage, but very aggressive and single minded in what she desired. And since the very first flirtatious conversation, I showed no sign of seeing it as a barrier, it only emboldened both of us. And so we pursued something physical in nature and it last for a while. Yet, the emotional subterfuge and general lack of "truth" proved the downfall of an overall vigorous sexual relationship.

    And I've read in several posts, inevitably bad things happen. And generally, they are right. I think one has to weigh short term physical gratification with the potential emotional consequences of their action, like most things in life.

    So when I think back on it now, it taught me how to be more emotionally aware, cautious of emotional bruising and generally to be a "better person" even when I might be involved in a relationship that is considered verboten by society at large. All I can say is...Damn You Libido!
     
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    I've had sex with 13 women and 8 of them were married. One of the married ones, that I was having sex with regularly, told me "It hurts too much" when I asked her why she didn't call when her husband was out of town. The other seven never seemed to have that much of an emotional attachment.
     
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    I have had affairs with married women as well as single. I can't tell a lot of difference if the woman is into it for sexual gratification only. Sometimes they go there because they get no relief at home due to a disinterested mate or a poor lover. Sometimes they go their for the excitement of the forbidden boff. Whatever the motivation, I have always been able to be friends with the lover when time came to end it. Maybe I am lucky, but it has been a nice ride through the years.