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...On the other hand, is it possible that there could be a link between homoeroticism and male chauvinism? On a thread about traveling (http://www.lpsg.org/underwear-clothing-and-appearance-issues/41399-airport-bathrooms-5.html) I mention a gay friend of mine who told me that, oddly, in many of the chauvinist countries where women are not equal citizens and where gays have no rights, the straight men get away with a lot of behavior that in the US would be labeled as gay.
For example, in Muslim countries it's common for close male friends to hold hands and kiss. That would never happen in the US.
Can I just say "wow" to Patrol's response? Makes me wonder if he's a sexologist, or sociologist? His response is one of the most intelligent ones I've seen on this board, or any board, and I may have to print it out to fully understand what you're saying....
It seems obvious to me that, in these countries where gays have no rights, that most of their gay men would get married and live lives as "straight" men. As a result, many of the guys your friend is seeing "getting away with...behavior that in the US would be labeled as gay," are actually gay men.
The US appears to be one of the most openly homophobic countries in the world, but it's an illusion. In Muslim countries, gays are either hanged [Iran, Syria], or imprisoned for life [Iraq, Pakistan]. As of about 2001, we don't prosecute homosexuality (Hurrah for good old American insight! It only took us until the 21st century to figure that one out!).
It seems to me, though, that a lot of the homophobia here in the U.S. stems from the fact that we're more aware of homosexuality, so the heterosexual men here are more paranoid about it than in stricter countries. Our men hesitate to touch each other in anything but the most violent ways (with a few ritualized exceptions, or if they're drunk and let down their defenses), they leave a seat between them at the movie theater, they don't express affection for each other verbally unless it's coded or laced with insults. In countries where homosexuality is never addressed, men don't seem to think in terms of "Someone will think I'm one of those gays we keep hearing about all the time," because they never hear about them.
Just imagine a world without homophobia. Things would be just plain erotic.
Wouldn't have to worry about "Is this homoerotic?" "Is there homo-
eroticism in straight men?"
Could you fathom the personalities when one is free from societal gender roles? Can you imagine the relieve on men worrying about whether something is gay or not?
Crazy.
It genuinely does puzzle me why all this disecting of sexuality. Those whom align themselves to an exclusive sexuality sub culture (the so called gay world) are as dogmatic and controlling as the Roman curia. Would a straight man watching a man and woman fucking be entering the area of homoeroticism ? I do not think so. Though I suspect straight men overly interested in lesbian scenarios in porn display some deep pathological flaw that would quite rightly question their sexuality.
The ancient world did not seem so inclined to stick labels on themselves. I have looked at works of art that some critic has termed "homoerotic" and thought, bullshit. It could be a brilliant piece of art tht has some erotic context but if a straight male and a straight female can appreciate it then the whole thesis of sexual categoriztion crumbles.
Thanks, GUY LOVE, I believe in free speech, but I hope and I am very confidant that none of my partners would ever discuss what happened between us sexually with any third party. I have never ever even wanted details concerning a partner's previous sexual activity. It has worked well for me, but I do not make judgements as to the value of the patterns others adapt for themselves. On this site I feel free to admit that I have a very high appreciation for both homosexual and heterosexual love and I have experienced both. Both, at their best, represent one of the most precious gifts which humans can share; however, much of the sexual activity I hear of falls far below the standard.
It genuinely does puzzle me why all this disecting of sexuality. Those whom align themselves to an exclusive sexuality sub culture (the so called gay world) are as dogmatic and controlling as the Roman curia.