How do I last longer when jacking off?

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  1. sammiez

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    When jacking off I usually do not last very long which worries me cause then I also won't last long during sex. I mean when I nail a chick I want to do her well and make her cum and bang her silly and not cum after a few minutes.
    I already tried start stop but it does nothing for me cause I simply reach the point of cumming too fast. Stopping doesn't help because as soon as I start again it doesn't take long and I have to stop again where is the sense of this?
    But sometimes, which is weird, when I almost cum I can hold it back and then only like 1 drop comes out and after that I can jack off for a long time before cumming but the sensation is also partially gone and it's more work than fun. Do you also experience this?
     
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    I can't say I've had this problem myself but I empathize.
    I'm assuming you are young, in which case, you might improve duration with age.
    Although, some men don't.
    There can be many factors involved with premature ejaculation from psychological to biophysical and it would seem it is already creating a source of stress for you if you are concerned with negative consequences. I would suggest re-framing the situation, rather than focusing on what you are worried about, focus instead on you experiencing what you want, which is longer duration. Our thoughts are behind the experience...
     
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    Hmm...don't rush it. Take your time, and don't jackhammer your stuff is my opinion.
     
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    Practice, practice, practice
     
  5. sammiez

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    The situation plays no role. Sometimes I simply come totally fast and sometimes it takes pretty long but to be honest jacking off isn't that much of a pleasure for me. Somehow it's a bit boring.
     
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    Try playing with other parts of your body. Find your pleasure. Put a finger up your butt, probe around, see if rubbing your prostate feels good. See if it feels different to stroke while you are flexing your PC muscles. See if it feels different to climax while flexing your PC muscles. See if flexing your PC muscles for a while, then relaxing and forcing the blood toward the tip of your cock feels good. See if it feels good to suck something while you jerk off. See if it feels good to use a different lube. See if it feels good to use a pocket pussy or a Fleshlight. See if it feels good to watch different porn than you normally do. See if it feels good to use warm lube, or ice water. If stopping isn't helping, stop for longer. You seem like the sort of person who likes to fail.
     
  7. sammiez

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    To be honest for me jacking off is rather disappointing. Even when I rub the most sensitive parts of the head then it's never like women rubbing their junk and then moaning and going insane. I only feel a heat sensation but it's never really intense. :(
     
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    I just let go of my hand if i find myself going over the edge
     
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    Use the method of "start and stop", Once you feel the flood gates about to open, slow down, loosen the grip or stop if u need to. Slow and steady wins the race, but makes the clean up much more work.
     
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    But I reach the point of cumming pretty fast and I dont think that stopping and then waiting changes this problem it only means that I have to stop totally often.
     
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    Avoid touching the head so much and focus on the shaft helps me
     
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    Ditto that. Head isnt the spot for me. Base of the shaft on ball side (bottom) is the ticket. Also, I last a few minutes in jack, but nearly an hour of hard pounding in the cunny.
     
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    Today I played with my dick for over 1 hour and really tried to make it as intense as possible and rubbed my head but it's never really intense is this normal? When women rub their junk then they moan and roll with their eyes and do all this crap so for them it seems to be totally intense but not for me. Is this normal that men don't feel that much?
     
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    slow you breathing down. The faster you breath the quicker you cum....I used to be a minute man. Now I can go for a lot longer...
     
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    that's longer than I could play with mine.
     
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    Sometimes I can also wank longer and rub the head and everything but what bothers me it's simply not intense. Do you ever feel the need to moan or do the crap which women do when they play with themselves? It seems like women simply feel much more down there.
     
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    No I don't moan or that I do very rarely but that's only if I have a really good visual stimulus
     
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    When you rub your glans then is it totally intense and you feel like going insane like those chicks in porn?
     
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    Dude, because it's porn. They behave that way because they are instructed to. Most if not all, would not squirm and moan and go crazy if in the privacy of their own homes.

    Doing PC muscle exercises (google it) can help, it did for me. Slowing breathing and concentrating on shaft as mentioned is also good.
     
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    Maybe in porn it's faked but in reality women moan and make all kinds of noises and I simply think that they have much more sensitivity down there. It's really disappointing when I can rub my head and nothing big happens.