Lol i don't try to control her sexually or anything, I mean I ask her somtimes (not usually during sex), if she wants me to do something different or better and she usually doesn't say much of anything.
It doesn't sound shagadelic. It sounds boring. It sounds like you very rarely get oral yourself. Maybe your fingers are too suited to a PSP!
Look, eventually as a man, you will realise that you spent an awful lot of time & effort into being the best lover that you could possibly be...& realise that you got very little back from most women in the bedroom, except a warm pride in getting your lady off.
It doesn't last.:biggrin1: It's not good for you at all, & that means it's not good for her.
If she says nothing - then make her say something. Just start doing all the things that you think might excite you, but you've never dared. Confidence is very sexually appealing.
I guarantee that if she's getting off at all, she ain't thinking of you - you're just a haphazard wanking machine. Screw that matey, if she was just a wank engine, you'd be through in 2 minutes flat & out with your pals.
Engage her attention with you.
Sex is a full contact sport, & I've never met a woman who didn't mewl like a kitten under the right circumstances - you've just got to build up the tension, & add some sexual frisson.
Slap her arse, lick it, call her a dirty slut & a whore, & that she likes it - get her to suck your cock - don't ask - break open the bondage cabinet, tie her up & explore alternate penetrations (all while not actually physically damaging her!). Film it, get her something sexy to wear.
I guarantee she'll f8cking talk to you pretty quick. If not, unless you've resurrected Helen bloody Keller, you've got a true sub - lucky, lucky.
The point is, we all waltz through life missing out on stuff we wonder if we'd like.
Don't be a journeyman, be an adventurer, & this advice would be for women too.
And remember, she might already like all kinds of perversion, but be afraid to tell you - only a 1/3 chance I'd say, but it's time to bring out the devil, & eject the saint.