how much naked with friends

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  1. youngo89

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    hi people
    we were 5 or 6 close friend at apartment. if we were alone in a friend's house especially at summers we take off our shirts sometimes stay only with boxers. we weren't shy and everyone can show everyone, jerk off together sometimes too. my question is how much you naked when with friends.are you shy or easily get naked ?
     
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    I walk around my room naked with one guy friend, he is very cool about it, the other guy friend i work out with, leaves the room if i change clothes.
     
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    I walk around naked in front of one friend and he doesn't have a problem with it. Wouldn't care if more of my friend's saw me naked
     
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    I think it isn't about shyness but insecurity. People have to lighten up and disassociate nudity with sex because they think it is "wrong" to be naked in front of another person.
     
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    Seems most moral people don't like nakedness if there's no good reason for it. So I always have to wear clothes when other people are visiting.

    But gasp! Wouldn't want a friend to find out I have a dick? I'm fine being naked around other people, if I have a proper reason to explain for it.
     
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    nudity between my friends and i is no big deal
     
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    I am not good enough friends with my friends now to do it. But when I was younger, I had a friend who we were nude aroudn each other all the time. It was no big deal.
     
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    Agreed, who cares if we are naked in front of each other, it's not like we are going to do anything sexual...We were born naked right? So what's wrong with it...
     
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    No, it's "most conservative people" you're talking about, not "most moral people." Taking a position that nudity is natural, sex is healthy, etc., is also a moral position, but simply a liberal moral position. Why only associate "morality" with conservatism?
     
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    Most conservative people, or puritanical prudes? Not all conservatives are all uptight about nudity and sex.

    Yes, nudity is natural, and sex is healthy. Good exercise. Good feelings. Bonding with one's mate. Sex is good for babies, who rather like coming alive and being born. I believe it to be a very loving act, to welcome the semen to naturally shoot into one's mate, holding nothing back, open to the prospect of maybe starting another precious baby to come to life. The gift of life from God, is a wonderful thing to share, in helping all the more fellow human beings to naturally come to life.

    But like any "moral" person, I am somewhat bound by reasonable community standards, so I'm not going to get naked without a socially acceptable reason. I don't desire sex with somebody who is not my wife.

    Are you suggesting that some of my views might be a bit "liberal?" Is that "bad?" Must I wear the conservative stereotype so perfectly? I heard somewhere, that the liberals of decades ago, are the conservatives of today. Know what that means? That means the social mores have decayed. Liberals are so far left as to be "way out there" into immorality, while conservatives are sort of in the liberal positions of decades ago. Yes, I think sex is healthy, as it's how humans procreate, and to bring more human life into the world, is supposed to be a "good" thing, especially within the moral confines of marriage and proper commitment.

    Wasn't it hippie liberals who said in the 1960s, "Make love, not war?" I actually think that could be a good idea, if they mean to make babies, for humans to mate more, and fight less, if at all possible. I imagine liberals weren't always into pushing sick ideas like rampant "family planning," but decades ago, were probably also fairly open to natural family growth as well?
     
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    It's so relaxing once they do not associate nudity with sex and/or homosexuality. Some of my friends are freaked out initially when visiting me but I make it clear that my apartment is a nude zone and they are welcomed to join in this past time and life style. Many do but after making it clear that they are not gay...neither am I. Of course once the girls join it's different but the association with sex is difficult.

    I remember one summer I spent almost a whole month at a nude camp site. When it came time for us to leave one of the other campers said to me "well it's time to join the real world". I looked at him and said..this IS the real world, thats the fake world.
     
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    I've heard of situations where hetero guys hang out naked together, but I never really understood how such situations come about.

    As for myself, throughout most of my life the only reason to be naked was for showering/bathing, changing clothes, or sleeping. Since I never did any of those things with my friends, we were never naked in front of each other. We never even went shirtless in front of each other, unless we were going swimming.

    A few years ago I rented a room in a house that had a sauna in the basement. When I used it alone I went nude, but when sharing a sauna with housemates we covered up. I thought that was a bit ridiculous, but I wasn't going to impose my nudity on others.
     
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    If a friend or friends are over, I don't have any issue with getting in the shower, dressing while they are in my bedroom. None of em make a big deal about it and I've been to their house where the same thing goes on. We don't make it a point to just sit around naked...but when someone is naked...nobody freaks or leaves the room
     
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    That's true..

    BUT. Don't think that just because someone else doesn't want to be naked around you means they think nudity is sexual. It's a personal space type of thing for me. Also I'd rather not remember what someone looks like mentally, I just don't want to see their imperfections.

    I also hate and never watch the behind the scenes of movies... I don't want to remember them that way.
     
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    The reality is that its not considered "normal" to most people to casually hang out with friends, girls or guys, naked. Im not passing judgement either way, but its just not typically acceptable. Im gay and I very much appreciate nice male equipment, but to be honest, I have no desire to see random friends nude. Its just not something that concerns me...I mean, why does it matter if your non-sexual friend looks good nude...its irrelevant. In college I had a few straight friends, some of them very attractive, who liked to watch porn and JO together sometimes. While I thought this was hot as hell, it really did cause unnecessary tension in my friendship with them, as I tended to spend a lot of time wondering "what if I just asked them if I could give them head instead...that would be so hot...I wonder if he'd go for it..." The overall outcome was that it was just unnecessary tension. Also, for the unattractive ones, I just didnt want to see them at-all...it was almost offensive.
    Again, this is coming from a farily open-minded person. Ive had a few non-sexual friends, straight and gay, that Ive masturbated with on-occasion, and that was fine at the time (drunk and horny.) But, there was an explicit point to it. Before and afterwards, we didnt just hang out naked though. I even had one bisexual friend who would randomly ask if he could see my dick because he was infatuated with size, and it actually made me not hang out with him as much because of it.
    In summary, whatever you want to do in your house is fine, and if your friends are fine with it, then OK, but I dont think you could fault anyone in any way for being uncomfortable about it, even to the point of not hanging out with you because of it. I wouldnt hang out with friends who acted like that regularly.
    Plus, I personally think guys are hotter in sagging or low-cut jeans with a cool-looking bulge and nice ass, than actually nude...it leaves more to the imagination. And I will admit I have some straight friends that I admire in this way quite a bit. But, I dont have much desire to get naked with them, because I know its pointless.
     
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    My roomate and I are good friends, and we'll always hang around the house in pajama pants or shorts only, but I've never see him naked, and he's never seen me. It's just sort of an unspoken thing... I don't wanna see his junk, and I'm sure he doesn't wanna see mine. He does travel a lot though, and when he's gone I do have my naked days, but never when he's there.

    That said, if I get up in the middle of the night to pee, and he happens to see me walk the 2 steps in the open to get across the hall to my bathroom, well, sorry. lol...
     
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    In high school I played sports and most of my friends were on my team. We showered together so nakedness was common. No qualms about changing in front of someone or skinny dipping. In college, I was in a fraternity. Showered together. Always naked. In fact, even when we moved out of the house into apartments it was normal behavior to ask someone to come talk to you while you were in the shower. Nobody cared.

    Just in Europe and checked out nude beaches with friends I just met that day or the day before. Not a big deal. But nudity itself is pretty normal in the UK. Nearly everyone wears tight undies. One of my new friends and I went out and got speedos to wear to the bathhouse just to be ridiculous.
     
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    It makes perfect sense to be nude in front of your friends at a nude beach, or in the locker room, or in a group shower situation. But original post was about being shirtless or in one's boxers with a group of friends at home, where there's no reason or need for nudity.

    Whenever I've gone to a friend's house, they have been dressed, not shirtless, not in their underwear, and definitely not nude. Nor have I ever been invited to strip down, no matter how hot it was. Believe me, there have been some hot days where I would have liked to have stripped down, but no such opportunity was ever given. Instead, we'd just sit around drinking ice water complaining about how uncomfortably hot we all were.

    One evening when I was in grad school, I was home alone on a painfully hot day, so I watched TV in the dark in my boxers. When my housemates came home, I didn't get up to put some clothes on. I was hoping they'd let it go. But one of them looked at me and said, "Are you in your boxers?" I replied, "Yes. It's too damn hot." They sat down and watched TV with me for a few minutes, then one of them turned to me and said, "Put some damn clothes on."

    That was my first and last attempt to be minimally dressed in front of friends.
     
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    Nerds.

    I think some friends just vibe better. I was hanging out with some friends I had just met in Prague and it rained alot. We went back to one house to dry our clothes and ended up sitting in our undies around a fire, nothing but boxer briefs and briefs (Europeans don't seem to wear boxers).

    I've had several roommates where talking after a shower, one completely naked, the other not, wasn't uncommon. Yeah, really hot days are good for sitting around nekkid.
     
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    I've always wondered what's OK and what's not especially with roommates. i always went on the safe side but felt like i shouldn't worry about it as much as i do.