How to deal with being a 31-year-old male virgin
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If she's a real woman and she's right for you then you'll be right for her, just the way you are. In fact, I think you're a breath of fresh air in a really complicated world. Oh how I'd love to find such a gentleman...
On another note, I think you might have been able to get an annulment (sp?) since your marriage was never consumated... but I may be wrong on that.
On another note, I think you might have been able to get an annulment (sp?) since your marriage was never consumated... but I may be wrong on that.
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At first I thought this was a sad story and I felt bad for you. But now that I read the other posts and pondered your situation, I'm sort of envious. If you are as cool and caring as you appear to be then you will have no problems finding a good girl when your ready.
Be confident and go out there and make it happen. Thats how people lose their virginity in high school, why not at 31.
Sex is an awesome thing, but its not anywhere close to the most important thing in life. Just be yourself. Make some small adjustments to better believe in yourself. You can do it!
Keep on keeping on!
Be confident and go out there and make it happen. Thats how people lose their virginity in high school, why not at 31.
Sex is an awesome thing, but its not anywhere close to the most important thing in life. Just be yourself. Make some small adjustments to better believe in yourself. You can do it!
Keep on keeping on!
- bguy,
Thanks :smile: I never expected to get an ego-boost out of this thread. However, as often as I read or hear women say they want to find a good guy, I rarely see them go for them. I think what they mean is they'd like to find a good-looking, confident, financially successful guy who also happens to be a gentleman. Prove me wrong, ladies. :smile:
I did look into annulment. Instead of dividing all the assets and debts 50/50, you both just walk away with what's in your name. That would've been very bad for me financially because she held the majority of the assets in her name only. There are also no longer any legal/financial penalties for infidelity (not much of a surprise here in CA).
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35 year old virgin here. See, it could be worse. 
Like you, I find myself caught in a catch-22. Women are attracted to confidence but, how do have confidence if you can't get a woman?
Like you, I find myself caught in a catch-22. Women are attracted to confidence but, how do have confidence if you can't get a woman?- bguy,
I'm feeling a lot better about myself, but let's not go as far as someone feeling envious of me or my situation. The feeling of being betrayed and abandoned is not something I'd wish on my worst enemy. No one deserves that pain.
- bguy,
Yeah, but were you married for eight years? :smile:35 year old virgin here. See, it could be worse.
What I'm learning now is that you have to base your confidence on how good you feel about yourself and not so much how others feel about you. My self-worth was shattered by years of rejection. But now I know it wasn't a problem with me but with my wife.
I suspect something awful happened to her before I met her and she hasn't been able to deal with it. It's unfortunate that she chose to ignore and run away from her issues, rather than work on them with me. But I think I'll be a lot better off in the long run.
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i don't think that I could deal with being a virgin at my age....I just turned 32 and I admit I like sex but even in the gay world I think guys put too much importance on it...I was calling chatlines and dating guys when I was 14...yeah I love to have sex but it's not what I'm all about......I have always picked the wrong guys to date..... my last boyfriend made me feel stupid and worthless....I would like to find a guy like you bguy.....you do need to have more confidence in yourself, you're cute.....I don't know how managed to stay a virgin...but it's a good thing too with all the disease in the world....
I'm 38 and a virgin... well with women:redface:! I love women don't get me wrong I just don't want to sleep with them!:biggrin1:
As to this guys situation, Dolfette has spoken the wisest of any so far. You sound like a genuine guy, thats way more important than what you do in bed, compitance comes with experiance and trust MAINLY trust. I think you'll do fine. Good luck mate.:wink:
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As to this guys situation, Dolfette has spoken the wisest of any so far
. You sound like a genuine guy, thats way more important than what you do in bed, compitance comes with experiance and trust MAINLY trust. I think you'll do fine. Good luck mate.:wink:Sammy
haha so do i, but that line was from the 40-year old virgin. i just couldn't resist.
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