I mean in other words, petite, you're going through the aches and pains, but it's going to be cool. I am looking forward to my own DNA existing in front of me, and you're gonna get to see it soon. stay healthy!
Oh, I know it will be! Thank you, I am trying my best to stay healthy.
It may feel this way to you (and it doesn't help that all the maternity "models" on products like you linked above are SO not pregnant or postpartum), but it isn't true. Unless your BF is some odd genetic anomaly, he's never thought you were more beautiful than he does right now.
Oh, he's been so sweet! I just really liked my body. It wasn't perfect, but it's been mine for a long time and I liked it.
i hated that shit too.
felt like absolute crap for nine months.
i got irritated that everyone assumes it's a magical experience.
when it gets to the point where i can't wank and i can barely wipe my own arse or put my own shoes on, i just wanted to slap people who come up to tell me how lovely it is to be pregnant.
i just wanted my body back!
Going through the changes that pregnancy brings often feels like being Jeff Goldblum in
The Fly.
My mum had pretty bad pregnancies too overall, but she did say second trimester was the best (least horrible?) part.
I can understand why you'd be excited about the ultrasound. Very much a bonding moment, so I've heard. And by the second trimester they're actually starting to look like miniature humans :smile:.
I bet every time TheBF looks at you he isn't thinking 'Oh my gosh, she looks terrible'. I bet he's thinking 'Wow, that's our baby she's got in there'. And from what you've said about him, I think after the birth when he looks at you and sees stretch marks etc he'll feel even more attracted to you because they got there from you carrying his baby. I really can't see him thinking they're unattractive.
I actually had morning sickness this morning! So much for it being over in the first trimester. I only had morning sickness once in my first trimester. Other than the emotional roller coaster, I think that it was better than my second trimester so far. Most of my first trimester I didn't feel pregnant at all, other than occasional breast pain and the crying over everything. :redface:
I suspect that he's not as turned on by my pregnant body, but he's far too sweet to tell me that. At least I think he is.
I agree with this Petite, TheBF sounds like such a good guy, I would think he is thrilled over every moment and every change:smile:
I know that he's thrilled! He's really excited about having a baby with me. You should have seen him picking out "daddy" themed baby books at the used book store, with titles like
I love you, Daddy and
Daddy and me, both cute stories about little adventures kids have with their dads and the cool stuff their dads teach them. He was positively adorable.
never slept with a guy who minded the stretch marks in the slightest.
but then, if he was the kinda guy who expected airbrushed plastic women, i wouldn't be sleeping with him.
I'm really more bothered by my own opinion of my body. Feeling like a year from now I'm going to be much less attractive than before, but TheBF will still be a hottie makes me feel really bad. I think TheBF will still want me post-baby because he's sweet and he adores me and he's as horny as a teenager, but I've been living with my body for a long time and it has changed very little in several decades and I liked it. This next year it will go through several major transformations, and that's a little unnerving to me, altering my long-held self-image and becoming comfortable with new realities. There are about 1,200 new realities I have to get used to very fast, and this is just one of them, not a very important one, but it's one of the things on the list that bothers me about my quickly changing self-identity, from free spirit with one foot out the door at all times to a mother, tied down to one man in one way or another for the next few decades and completely responsible for the life of another person. Just realizing that for the first time ever, I can't just pick up and move on if I want to if I find myself feeling unhappy, find a new lover, create a new relationship that different from the last one, and one of the things that has always made me feel more in control was feeling like I have a body that is very attractive to men who like my body type, so I always have other options available to me if I felt like moving on. Some things don't come so easily for me, like real commitment and becoming someone else when I've been one person for so long.
I don't expect any sympathy. My issues with my self-identity or commitment or feeling like my body is such a large part of my own self-image that I feel uncomfortable with the idea of it changing are just normal everyday realities of being a human being who is growing and changing. It's no tragedy.
