I don't know what to tell you, but none of this makes sense.
Actually it's very normal for a percentage of women on the planet.
You might consider a different, more compassionate, informed gynecologist .
I've seen about 15 of them.
The area you're talking about is the perineum, the area where the episiotomy is preformed. This can tear with any childbirth.
Episiotomy just insures more even tear, which is easier to repair. Usually one or 2 sutures.
You know very little about childbirth. I have helped deliver many babies and was pre-med student to be a Gynecological surgeon and many women require far more than 1 or 2 stitches with an episiotomy. An episiotomy is easier to repair but not all women need it because they won't tear at all. It was used in days past to ensure the pushing phase happened more quickly so the physician didn't have to wait for the babies head to knead the perineal tissues to help prevent tearing.
Why you had a c section, I don't know. It is the pelvis that we are concerned about when giving birth, and if baby's head can pass through that, then mom has a natural vaginal delivery. (excluding multiples) Not the vagina.
You really need to do your research. I was in labor 33 hours with a 6 pound baby that was STUCK in my pelvis and needed help getting back out from the c-section opening.
Bleeding that you discribe is not normal. I'd imagine you'd experience a lot of infections.
No I don't experience infections from it. It's a hairline tear like when you split your lips when they are chapped and it bleeds a little but hurts like hell.
The fourchette is at the bottom of the vagina,the perineal area. It is also an area the some women have piercing done. It can be delicate,especially with a piercing.
Very few genital piercings are done in the fourchette area because most women don't have a large enough piece of skin to pierce. But I would and it doesn't stretch easily. Is that difficult to understand? I've also had two genital piercings so I'm quite familiar with my anatomy.
You may have a fourchette fissure. Some times treated with hormonal creams or surgery. Try to find a vulvar specialist .
You could also contact the national vulvodynia association to see if they have any docs in your area.
I don't have vulvodynia.
You need to be in contact with a doctor who knows about these bleeding episodes so that if you did develop an infection, it could be treated before it goes to other areas of your body.
I don't have bleeding episodes.
All in all, this could happen to any woman. It is the nature of the female body, we do seem to have more medical problems.
I'm quite in touch with all areas of my body. I've had 9 surgeries and 5 in the last year on various body parts and I'm 7 weeks post total abdominal hysterectomy.
In cases where the fourchette tears very easily, it is not the fault of the male, or his size. No guilt there. Anything could cause pain or bleeding, including tampons or vaginal exams. I would pursue this though.
